Peoples Perception of You: Past vs Present
What do you do when others perceive you of your past rather than present self? I was thinking about this as I was walking back to my dorm where I'm presently at, and I have had an occurrence recently with several people, whether it's from my freshman year in College. For context, I am a sophomore in second semester sophomore year, and I've also had conversations with people back home or people I didn't necessarily see but over online when I was home for spring break
Embracing the circumstances surrounding those connections would be the best thing to do. And leaving people on read ghosting them is a valid option, but you might want to keep people around, keep them up, updated on what you're doing, and not waste too much time doing that, and keep things short and simple. And when people ask things from the past, say you've moved on, sure, but show that you've moved on genuinely and things will be fine. One thing is don't overthink
Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 1:46
Hey, Jonathan, thank you for inviting me to this. And I concur with Indigio in terms of assessing sort of whether or not you want to spend time investing in this relationship. And if not, move on. And that that really is determined, I think, by the context of when you are engaging with them and if they're in your life a lot, then it's worth having a difficult conversation at the beginning because it's hard to sort of approach this
Why not say balls to others perceptions? It means nothing about me but speaks more about them. I know myself better than anyone and move on. What is true and the only reality is what you know about your own inner resources, capability, potential and inner emotional and intellectual capacity to manage life. When you know that how others perceive you in contrary to your own self perception, then you get a glimpse into the others in our capacity and also personality
Your perspective was very helpful. Thank you. It definitely gave me a sense of enlightenment and kind of more of a positive perspective of losing touch with certain people. I particularly wasn't I realized I didn't address it in my original post that I was talking about negative connotations or how people perceive you negatively, not necessarily just overall people losing touch with you. But I you do raise some good points. So thank you
But it's just interesting when you think like, man, these people really don't know you that well anymore, or they view you this way when you're not and you've grown or you've moved away from how much you knew them or how much they knew you from the time that you were closed with them
As always, thank you for your wise words. In my particular personal experience since I've posted this, I actually talked about this as my therapist. This is one thing I was like, does it make me a bad person? Is it unhealthy to either stop talking on ad like people on different apps like Snapchat, for example, or just completely block these people out of my life from seeing things like on other social media apps?