Stop obligating yourself to be hurt!!!!
And it's okay for you to be selfish with your time with yourself, because if you don't want to be hurt, don't open yourself up like that. I don't care if it's your mama, daddy, sister, brother, auntie, uncle. People aren't going to treat you the way you treat them. And the people that hurt you the most are the ones that's closest to you. And I know everybody relationship is different out there in the world