Not that this was a big deal, it's just roles, right? But oftentimes we go through life relationships, both with family and friends and lovers, and we just sort of presume that we know what they like. Or we might presume that they like what we like. There is a saying, Christianity to treat others the way you want to be treated. And that's a good standard, right? To think about that. If this hurts me, it might hurt other people too