@Izzy
Izzy S-L
@Izzy · 1:43

Do you like small talk ?

article image placeholderchat
And I answer with something other than good, and I simply just don't like small talk. But that might be because I'm rather introverted. And that might be because I just don't want to waste my valuable, limited source of social energy on something that's not serving a greater purpose. One could argue that small talk does serve a greater purpose. So that's why I'm kind of taking this well. Do you like small talk? And if so, why?

#conversations #introvert #extrovert #interaction

4
@NealD
Neal Damiano
@NealD · 1:33
I will reply back and talk, but if it's just nonsensical stuff, I don't mean to sound pompous here, but it's just a waste of time and energy. So I agree with you. I am a talkative person, but it has to be something interesting. I wouldn't consider myself really an introvert or an extrovert. I don't know. At times I'm an extrovert. At times I'm an introvert. I think that's a sketchy subject because it's a misnomer
3
@liora
Liora H
@liora · 1:40
I just feel like small talk is very shallow and one dimensional and there really isn't that much you can get out of it, as both of you have already said. So it's just not enjoyable. It just feels nerve wracking and energy zapping for no real good reason. And I would be happy to have a four hour long, in depth conversation with a stranger, some random night about anything at all existentialism, a meaning of life
2
@Swell
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15

Welcome to Swell!

@FryedOreo
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 4:20

Small Talk Is Good For All Of Us, at times.

Maybe this is a really neutral convo for most people, but for me, it's very complicated. So small talk. It's not something I'm good at now. It's not to say I don't like it. It's not something I'm good at. I don't really have the temperament for that spontaneous in the moment dialogue with people I don't know
@Chi_Anonymous
Chi Anonï
@Chi_Anonymous · 2:55

@Wuandurful ambiverts are real lol

So I actually enjoy small talk. Now. Growing up, I hated it because I didn't know how to operate in it. As Allora said, there's not much room for honesty in small talk. Oftentimes it's pros. I keep saying pros. I don't know why it's post in such a way that it's beneficial for the person asking, meaning if they're like, hey, How's your day going? And you answer honestly, it's been one of those days
2
@FryedOreo
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 4:50

We’re all ambiverts but this doesn’t help with growth. @Chi_Anonymous

You could be whatever you think you are and who's going to tell you otherwise. But in terms of development and growth, that's where it's different. And I think honestly of my opinion, if you are firmly staunched in a certain belief of yourself, I don't see where the growth can begin if you're not open to different means of interpretation of understanding social energies
@Chi_Anonymous
Chi Anonï
@Chi_Anonymous · 1:53

@Wuanderful Real amviberts are rare, so I understand the pushback. Lol

I think there's a little bit more Grace. It's not as rigid as you're trying to make it. In my opinion, I'm completely aware of the MBTI test as well. I think Amber version does exist within the realm of that test. I do think there are certain instances where they're brought out more but fight or flight, meaning your response to anger or your response in a situation where you're uncomfortable is not going to necessarily be the same as environments where you are
3
@FryedOreo
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 1:28

I agree, it is very rare. @Chi_Anonymous

Our weaker functions we don't work on, we don't utilize as much. We just use our basic functions are ones that we are the most excelled in. And that's the end of the story for most people. So you have some people out there who don't care to go in depth. They feel it's stupid. It's not important. And then you have some people out there who don't really give that much thought into exploring things outside of themselves and challenging themselves to think differently
2
@Izzy
Izzy S-L
@Izzy · 3:15

Definition of introverts & extroverts from a personality psychology persp

I need to figure out which study this was called because I can't remember it like the name or the year off the top of my head, but I'll find it and put it in this conversation. But essentially, the results showed that there was no correlation between people who were introverts and extroverts and between what topics they preferred to talk about. Similarly, there was no correlation between introverts and extroverts and whether or not they enjoyed small talk. There's simply no correlation
4
@NealD
Neal Damiano
@NealD · 1:53

@Izzy

I'm more one on one person. I feed energy off of one person having a conversation with them. I never liked to go out in a large group and have a lot of friends and entertain and be entertained. That just never was my thing. And some people like that. Some people love to be the center of attention. They love to go out and entertain their group of friends and give out massive amounts of energy and then get energy fed to them by their friends or an audience's response
4
@Chi_Anonymous
Chi Anonï
@Chi_Anonymous · 1:26
For me, having a conversation that might be deeper for most, the first conversation we have still, to me is small talk in my opinion. But I know we've been socialized a certain way to see extraversion or introversion. So that was more so what I was speaking to not like the subject matter of set topics or I mean, how do you classify what's deep anything can be deep. That's another conversation as well. That's more so to clarify what I was speaking to
2
@FryedOreo
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 3:41

Thanks again for this convo @Izzy

So to say that, you know, the latest score of the basketball game, it's surface level. But to talk about how that team came to those points and also maybe the strategies the coaches had in terms of how they played the star player on their team versus how they guarded the star player and the other team. Well, that could lead to some deeper talk if you are into that sort of thing. So I guess it's just more of finding some meaning beyond the surface
@NealD
Neal Damiano
@NealD · 0:39

@Wuandurful

Well, wonderful. You always give good insightful replies. And I appreciate that. And you do reply on some of my posts here and there, and I always appreciate it. And I think it's fantastic that you found your passion and that happens to be human condition and psychology, which is an interest of mine also. But I think that's really cool that you have a deep passion for that. So good on you, brother
2
Swell user mugshot
0:000:00