But then you try to work it out with your husband only to get more manipulation, more berating, more gaslighting, the silent treatment when you say, no, I don't want to have sex. No, I'm not coming on Wednesday to Florida because why would I want to go to somebody who dictates what I'm going to do, when I'm going to do it and what I'm going to get? It's arrogance. It is manipulation. It is absolutely insecurity