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So now at a place where I'm just kind of putting together what I have, it's a little scary, a little lonely. There's a lot of feelings I'm having. And because I don't drink and I don't smoke and I'm not acting out and binging on food or what have you? It's like I'm so raw and I am not a huge TV watcher
Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 3:18
But you're also wanting to feel something that just shift the pain. And in the book, I talked about this thing called the pillow list, which is literally the thing that when you're on your pillow and you could look at this list and it has a few names, and those names are people that bring you both comfort and wisdom and also an unconditional space to be messy inside of
Jared Bogda
@JCB07 · 1:54
You need to take care of yourself and not compare yourself to anyone else, either. I think that's really important, too, is to be you and to understand what your direction is and how you can really persevere, and we all know what our strengths and what our weaknesses are and move forward in that direction. I think that's a key piece for CPR for thinking about the future for each of us and the direction we all want to go. So stay positive
Sontaia Briggs
@PKBriggs · 2:21
It takes you out of the place of maybe denial or still clinging, but reflecting and mournfully, which makes sense because something that you loved or something that you dreamed is something that you hoped for. So while you're in a space that's very raw, right? You said you are completely aware of everything because you're not just trying to distract yourself with the things that we can distract ourselves with sometimes. And that means you feel everything. So I know it seems scary. Definitely. Right
Ophelia Johnson
@LadyO · 3:38
And once I can tap into that, then I'm able to release it because there are so many things in life at this point that can be disappointing and even devastating at times, but it's recognizing it, seeing it, feeling it everywhere. Just feel it just be in it, accepting it and then being able to let it go. And then you can move forward in whatever direction you need to move in. I hope this helps. I thank you so much for your vulnerability
Hilary Powers
@hilarypowers · 3:25
But I do experience the same emotion, which is loss, grief, pain, letting go, fear, anxiety, excitement, joy, love and rebirth. And I'm in the midst of all that, and sometimes I'm not sure if it's fear or excitement. I certainly know I've been crying a lot, and I am going to allow myself to have that process because I need to cleanse. I need to let go and I need to let go anyhow
Charlie Floyd
@damonnomad · 3:14
We're just not signaling to each other. And I think doing grief and doing grief well is an opportunity to signal to other people. And I think that signaling is important and not so much the outcome. But the signaling is important, whether it draws someone to you who can be of help or just a signaling, letting other people know that you're a complete human being and not this prototypical archetype of a person who is not subject to certain forces
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