Let me, for the evening, lighten the mood a little bit, just provide a little respite from the heaviness of today and talk about dating apps. Now, I decided to get back out there, and I have been on a few dating apps right now. Those are the three that's a screenshot from my phone. I'm on bumble plenty of fish and match. Now, here's the thing
Georgie Dee
@GeorgieDee · 4:08
And then this one guy who actually ended up spending night with he thought I was 38, and on my profile it said, I don't know, 42. And I was actually 45. And he started talking about me being 38 and I was like no dude, I'm not 38. And he goes no, you're 35. And I was like, what? And he goes, well you've lied about your age, you said you're older. And I said no
Avazindia Debose
@Avazip · 3:59
It was a new site when I first got it, so a lot of people downloaded and thought it was a sex site. I never revisited it again. And then Match was a little bit more conservative because they cared about all your preferences and the things that you did and the things that you wanted to do with the person. And no matter what I've done or written on there, I know the lady said she can help, but I don't think I was the one who needed help
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 3:57
And if you want to get to know me, then you'll get to see and experience the real me in person. So many people get caught up in dating apps being this medium that you just stay on forever and just chat, chat, chat, chat, chat. I had one guy say to me, oh, yeah, let's take this off the dating site and we can share email and email each other for a few weeks and then we can set a date
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 5:00
And I was like, oh, my god. I know what he's about, what he's looking for, which kudos for him put out there. Go for what you're looking for. No judgment. He messages me and like, how freaky are you? And I'm like, nothing on my profile says but okay, that's what you got. I get it. And so I responded back because I just had time, like I said, for some BS. Last night
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 1:07
And just we spread STIs all over the world together like, no one I'm not even that loose sexually. I just talk a good game. But no but. Thank you for chiming in on my swell. I appreciate it
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 4:53
It's funny, I've only been on dating apps now for a few years, but back in the day I used to make dating opportunities out of the apps I was on. Apps like Black Planet, that was a big one for me. MySpace, big one for me. Met my kids'mama, my space way back in the day and I actually met a few people off Yahoo Voice Chat. If you can remember Yahoo chat rooms, those are all the rage back then
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
And no, he's not from a dating app. No, thank God, they're a waste. I'm telling you from experience, these men out here, especially the men as far as because you're going to run into a lot of men that's from different countries on these date and apps and older men or whatever, and they're willing to do anything they can to get your attention or whatever. Say they pay you money
And I said my only prerequisite that I was looking for because I got so boggled down with the city I was living in, how it just seemed like nothing was going well. But at the same time I didn't understand until later that from the limited information I was given about women on dating sites is that they get like hundreds of messages and most of it is sexual and it's not someone suitable for like it's not a man who's like a man
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:18
The guys just tend to not all. Some tend to not just follow their lion hunter inner calling and just make arrangements to meet for a date for the most part. So, interestingly enough, I happen to match with someone Friday. I had no plans to do anything all weekend, but I was so impressed with this. Hey, what are you doing later? And I gave him the home, just watching TV, and he was like, we're getting together 830
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:28
And the part that is just like, wow, what happened to our society where there were gentlemen callers back in the day that wanted to present their best self to a woman and they knew that she had options and they knew that they needed to present them their best self as the one that she needed to say yes to. Where is that desire to assert themselves and to be direct and to pursue?
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 2:33
And I'm pretty sure there are women out there that respond to that. I don't let that get to me. That's not my thing, is to be someone's very easy prostitute. So usually if I'm in a playful mood, I might say something snarky back or a lot of times I just keep right on scrolling because that's not what I want to do. But thank you for contributing to this post about dating apps
Nouvelle Love
@Nouvelle · 4:48
And then I'm asking my friends who knew about dating sites as well, they're like, oh yeah, and I even found out that some of my friends were actually utilizing the website, like, going on these dates and different things like that. And they were like, no, it's legit. It's just you got to pick and choose what man you want to give your attention to because some of them are not looking for sexual activity
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:55
I am no longer trying to tell a man who because I'm entertaining men in their forty s, I am no longer trying to help a man in his 40s figure out how he needs to approach a woman, date a woman, et cetera. I have someone on a different post you might come across that I'm going to leave it nameless, but the guy was like, oh, well, you sound like you're put together swell, educated
Tayane Leite
@laytcheety · 4:58
I don't like to be texting all the time, and some people would, like, require a very quick reply or I don't know. Guys are just so worrying. In general, on dating apps, it's like, I felt like I was having the same conversation with different people all the time. And then I had a friend, and once she told me that one day she was very bored and she just started to swipe everybody
Nouvelle Love
@Nouvelle · 4:53
Maybe everything is not wrapped up in a pretty bone. That's okay. And then that's when I had to realize, it doesn't matter. If it's not for me, it's not for me. These dating apps are so crazy. I deleted printing fish after that incident. I've never tried bumble. But I was on her, literally on her, which is a lesbian dating app meant for women over there. And it was like one was almost ten years older than me
Nouvelle Love
@Nouvelle · 1:24
I actually meant a long term partner offer there at one point, but clearly we didn't make it as far as long standing for ten years or anything like that. We were together for a few years, but we didn't make it. And there's another astrology app too. I think it's called cosmic. I forgot the name. And then there's also an app where you are connected by your love languages, and I forgot what that was
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 3:02
Hey, thank you for commenting on this post. It has been an exciting topic. And you know what, listen, I have not ever heard of the astrology based dating apps. I might take a look at those or some of them or try one. I have done the okay cupid. I just really didn't see people that I would have an interest in per se. But I have seen that one. But the astrology based one, yeah, those are really interesting