I tend to see that when I'm with people that are quite a bit younger than me, it's sort of annoying for them to think that I have advice for them, especially if they didn't ask for it. We're all lifelong learners, and we're all teachers and students of each other. And the comment here is that just because someone is younger than you, it doesn't mean that you need to be in the position where you have to give them advice all the time
Paul OMahony
@omaniblog · 2:19
So that's part of what happens at every Toastmaster's meeting. There's a sharing of advice. I'm not sure that I have a 16 year old daughter. I don't think I give her any advice anymore. I feel that I've done my bit. And of course, if she asked me for advice, that's a different matter. But I don't think I'm going to be dispensing advice for her over the next few days. Do I give my wife some advice?
Peri Lyons
@Periwinkle318 · 0:33
That was really helpful and very insightful. I like the distinctions you make with such clarity. Thank you for that. I actually learned something. As a native New Yorker, my impulse is to just give advice, no matter whether it's asked for or not. But also, I'm glad I discovered this. I was the founding director of something called the Moth and the concept of storytelling, and this is a very interesting and intimate way to do it. So thanks again. Bye
Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 0:31
Hey, Perry. Just want to shout out and thank you for listening. I started giving voice as a swellcast a couple of years ago when I really wanted to dig into how we communicate with our voices and in different contexts. And this particular session was really dedicated to my own rigorous study of how I should just listen and not always prescribe and solve things. And I put it to use a lot, so I'm really happy it resonated with you. Thank you. Welcome to Swell
Diana N
@homewithdiana · 1:44
Maybe not right then, but you just maybe offer, saying, hey, if ever you need my advice, you come to me. Okay? Do you need my advice right now? And it's okay to just flat out ask that of a friend if it's an acquaintance or a colleague? Maybe you don't even say that. Just say, you know, I'm here for you if you need anything. So. I love this. This was such a good one
You have to be very, very careful, very careful who you give advice to, for what purpose you're giving them advice, and whether or not they want it. So if you keep that guideline in mind, everything will be a okay
Hey, Debra, this is a really interesting topic for me as a teacher. A lot of the times I have found, and you brought up a good point, like people, you think they may be asking for your advice. But a lot of the times, especially with my fellow teachers, co workers, educators, they just want to air their grievances and not necessarily receive advice
