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@DBPardes
Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 4:39

SESSION 13: COURAGEOUS CONVERSATIONS - what’s the buzz about?

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If someone's in the deep spiral of despair and you want to talk to them about something that might trigger them even worse than you might want to think about taking a breath and saying, maybe it's not the right time to bring this up because this person is going through so much and their heart and their head are not clear

Knowing we are about to get into it - but safely and with deep intentions and lots of deep breaths.

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@Broungirltales
Bini Thampi
@Broungirltales · 1:52

@DBPardes @kate - does courage need to be gathered to have a conversation?

Interesting topic. Thank you, Kate, for inviting me to session session. Courageous conversations. Whats? When I think of this, I think about conversations need to be respectful. And I think courageous conversations can be on the borderline because you are breaking someone else's bubble at the time. You're having the courageous conversation. Obviously, you're not on the same page, which is why you're having the courageous conversation. Another term they use when it's done in a group is intervention session
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@PKBriggs
Sontaia Briggs
@PKBriggs · 4:05

This is powerful. @DBPardes @kate @LadyO@RevMarian

And I just leave with at the very much at the end of the day, can we just be like the doctors and do no harm if you cannot have these people in your Church or whatever the case may be without harming them or be over their spiritual lives without harming them, then at the very least, they can go someplace else, right. And we can be clear about that. And that doesn't feel like a win. I guess for the LGBTQ faith movement
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@DBPardes
Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 3:11

🙏

But we show up as ourselves in all the situations we're in, whether we're in a relationship or dealing with someone at work, we have our patterns and our behaviors. And I think even on Swell, there's this really interesting sort of place where we kind of tiptoe around what is swell. Is it a place for us to really hang out and bear our souls to strangers in a lot of ways? No, I think swell is a place to have deep connection and really invite intimacy
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@LadyO
Ophelia Johnson
@LadyO · 4:29

Vulnerability is key

It's very rare that you'll find someone who is emotionally intelligent enough to understand where you're coming from. God, this is like the best thing I've heard all night it's like 11:40 p.m. Here. I think it's about four on the East Coast and probably twelve on the West Coast because we're about 7 hours ahead of the East Coast. So this was such a wonderful thing to get off work and listen to, and I really appreciate it
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@DBPardes
Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 1:09

@LadyO https://s.swell.life/SSkuO81dzqeEzkc

Affiliate. Since you're doing research, I wanted to read something from a book I read called Crucial Conversations, and I went to my bookshelf and I know it's red, and I have my bookshelf kind of coordinated by colors. Don't even go there anyway. I didn't do that. Someone else did it, but as a gift to me, but it's sort of beautiful as I look at it. Anyway, the book is not there
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@kimestryarts
Kim M
@kimestryarts · 2:01

Power dynamics

I just can't help but think about context. And when I hear people talking about vulnerability, I can't help but think about power dynamics, especially in the corporate space, and how that impacts the ability of people to truly be honest. And for those who are marginalized in groups, it's especially difficult to ask someone who's marginalized to have a session session. Courageous conversations, whats honest when they're coming from a space of being marginalized in the context
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@DBPardes
Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 2:43

@kimestryarts

So you just can't jump off a cliff because you have to land someplace that's solid and has points of grounding so that you don't fall apart after you make that decision. So I really appreciate your perspective here. So valuable and more of that. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you
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@FryedOreo
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 3:42
So that's something I try to keep in mind with. I never want to make someone feel like I'm talking down on them or saying something crazy. You're never going to hear me cuss people out and things of that nature. I'm just here for the aspect of conversation and community building and even intimate connections. I guess if you will. I'm. But yeah, I appreciate this conversation from all of you. Yeah. Cool topic
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@TARASNOWDROPS
HIMA BINDU
@TARASNOWDROPS · 0:44
Yes, I do feel that small to big traumas need to be addressed and discussed and shared the pain and the money that we go through on daily basis instead of recollecting and reminding it in our mind, it's better to share the burden to those who believe and whom we can trust that we are going going to get the solution there. For that we needed a bit of courage to express. Yeah, that's a beautiful topic. Thank you all. Bye
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