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Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 2:57

Session 21: YOUR PROFESSIONAL VOICE vs YOUR PERSONAL VOICE : Is there a distinction and does it matter

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When you're a salesperson on the phone, you might adopt a deeper voice or a warmer voice, but just thinking about the voice itself, is there a distinction and do you have it and is it on purpose? And when do you deploy one voice over the other? And do you strive to be one person and have no delineation and have one big integrated human being?

Biz vs Pleasure - how does your voice change? Literally or metaphorically

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@BkQue
Cheryl Hill
@BkQue · 2:28
Once I've made an audio version of my Swell, and in my professional voice, the feedback I get, with exception of when you gave me your feedback, others who have given me feedback, it's nice, it's courteous
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Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 2:02

@BkQue

Hey, Cheryl. Wow, this is so interesting you responded this way. There's two things I want to say thank you for being here, by the way, and responding. And, you know, when people respond to you and it feels a little out of context, it's definitely sort of their curiosity and their sort of respect for what you say, but they might not be in the zone of your expertise. So it's definitely like it's a disconnect
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@aBirdieOnaWire
Wren .
@aBirdieOnaWire · 3:49
And I thought it was really interesting because this is a social science theory that posits that we as humans change or accommodate the way that we communicate depending on the audience, the person or persons that we're talking to or communicating with. So for a good example, let's say you're talking to a young child, maybe four or five years old
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Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 0:51

@aBirdieOnaWire

They just want to know what you want. What do you want, and is it right? For me, it sounds a little brusque, but it's a relief from all the smoke and mirrors, right? Yeah, it's very interesting. It's interesting to study it, to watch it, to note it, to see how we we are couple bowl sometimes of kind of layering stuff on that we don't need to. Really, really interesting. Thank you
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@Her_Sisu
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:09
This is very layered for me. I am an AfricanAmerican woman who has been in middle leadership. I'm still in a middle leadership role, although I don't have any direct report words, but it's still classified as a middle leadership role. And I spend a lot of time in front of people who have titles such as president and vice president and so on and so forth
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@GeorgieDee
Georgie Dee
@GeorgieDee · 1:45

@DBPardes Performance Art

And what really impressed me about that first meeting I was involved in was all of the really top, top people were all women and they were so eloquent and intelligent in the way they spoke and I admired that in them. And I thought, I need to develop that for myself. Even the way that we speak changes the accent. So when I'm talking to a specific group of students, it'll be more Australian, more DownToEarth and more casual like this
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Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 1:47

@Her_Sisu

But they have to look at you as somebody who they can. Because people want to put people in boxes. So they want to say. Okay. This person is this way. And I can expect this result from her. And it's so important to be ahead of those ideas and to keep on pushing people to keep expanding their ideas of who you are and not to box you in and to know that you are an ever changing, ever growing person. But within that expansion, there is stability
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Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 2:20

@GeorgieDee

And yes, performance art is a great way to look at it and to also to be playful without being too heavy about it. I think it's fun to think about without being too, I don't know, performative, but to be able to say, okay, how am I going to approach this situation? And how am I going to pull out parts of me that might be better suited for this?
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@GeorgieDee
Georgie Dee
@GeorgieDee · 0:40

@DBPardes Olga

Darling. Darling. Did you be calling for Olga? I don't think you actually knew her name. But you said something about a little character from Georgie. It's not character. Actually is a completely different person when I am professional. I talk there this year. This is actually a beautiful subject of talking. So lovely. Thank you for mentioning me. I have been sleeping for so long because Georgie should not let me play
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@FryedOreo
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 1:26
I would kind of listen to how a lot of people talk to my neighborhood and community and I would kind of notice that they didn't sound quite like me, like they all sort of sound a little similar. So I would try to have that inflection but it never really genuinely sounded like me. So my professional voice is kind of the same as my personal voice. It really is
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@aayanisms
Aayan B
@aayanisms · 4:41

@DBPardes

Within the manageable sphere, what is out of your control is when you're interacting with stakeholders or customers externally, then it becomes a tricky conversation. And therefore sometimes it helps to listen more and not have any vocabulary. People want to be heard. If you know more than you are sharing and reaching out, the traditional outbound people now want to focus on inbound where to share your thoughts. Let me listen, let me absorb it
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Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 2:21

@GBX

I'm not your potential employer. It's amazing how relaxed their shoulders get, how relaxed they get, how different they are, because they were just tense for 15 minutes. And I don't know if that's good or bad. I don't know if they're winning me over by being a tense candidate or whether they're going to be more appropriate if I see them more comfortable
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