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Is it possible to love someone you don't trust?
Berotte Jean berty
@Berty97 · 3:51
Well, I think trust can be without love because trust is something that needs reason to be. For instance, in order for me to judge someone as reliable have to follow through your actions have to see your honesty have to have firm believe that you will not betrayed me at some point of time. And it goes the same when we talk about relationship. When we are in a relationship we expect our partner to be reliable. However, love is just something else
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 4:01
Bertie, thank you for taking the time not only to listen to this Swell, but to also offer an audio response. Yes, I seen this question on Twitter and I had to bring it to Swell because we automatically think trust and love are the same thing. We automatically think that to love someone is to trust them and to trust someone is to love them. But these are not always mutually exclusive and we are often taught, not often taught
Those good qualities of yours. Or sometimes, if you're dealing with a master manipulator, they may be able to find ways to express their good quality. Right? They're good at showing the good side that you fell in love with. So if they see that, okay, this person still cares about me. If this person cares about me, how can I use this person for my own benefit? A person like that, they're able to use people that are a bit naive
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 3:03
Yeah. Thanks again, Omega Strange for taking the time not only to listen to this swell, but to also offer an audio response. Trust and love. Vital for any family relationships. But at times you can't always have both. And sometimes the grief greatest loves of your life will backstab you, double cross you and lie straight to your g****** face. And you still will love them because they actually had the balls to do it. Love is a mysterious thing
Arya Sunyata
@theheartdrive · 5:00
There is this formula of how much time, resources and commitment for that doctor to be there. To get that degree, you know, he had to put in time, resources and commitment. So that automatically ups his credibility. So anyway, interesting topic. We can definitely dive into desire and all of that, but these things are not love. These things are completely separate and they're incredible experiences. And I mean, when it hits, you know, hey, flow with it
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 3:58
And, yeah, trust is such an interesting thing. On dating profiles, they always speak about they want loyalty, they want this, they want loyalty. And to me, it's like, well, isn't loyalty supposed to be part of the process? But of course, they are around men that are not loyal. And to some degree, I almost wonder, is it because they fall for men that shower them with charm and charisma?
Arya Sunyata
@theheartdrive · 5:00
But it's an interesting thing you point out about having an experience and having feelings regardless of maybe in the dating, it comes out like, more, but it's probably something in general experience, like you're having maybe a conflict with a coworker. And you don't mean the coworker ill if a coworker was about to get hit by a bus, you would say, hey, get out of the way. Or you do something to make sure they don't get hurt. Right
Renee Slay
@Renee_Slay · 4:03
But if that person that you're with then becomes jealous, then to me and maybe I'm alone in this, but I feel insulted because I'm like if you knew I like to think I am a person that is very loyal and very trustworthy. And in life, generally, people tend to know that about me very quickly, very open, very honest
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 4:23
So for you to open up and trust someone you don't take lightly, which is fascinating to me, I could totally see a lot of people, I think, feel that way about trust in a sense that love for them is born of trust. The more trusted they are with the person, the more a chance it is they can love them. And my only objection to that is that love is too powerful and wild to be shrunken to this safe thing that builds trust
Renee Slay
@Renee_Slay · 3:22
But however, I still feel like to be not just in love, not just in a honeymoon phase, but like truly love someone, then you love them and you trust them. I think it's a combo package. I think that people feel like they love someone and have that jealousy within the relationship. And I think that then can turn very quickly into a toxic situation
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 4:06
There can be some romantic sparks that can emanate from that, but maybe sometimes it's not love. Maybe it can be something else. But if that love is there, it just makes it so much more strong, of a whole hold, and it can be wildly fascinating and can inspire you to do so many great things. But thank you so much, Renee, for joining in the conversation. And anytime you want to join in other conversations of mine, you're more than welcome to do so
Renee Slay
@Renee_Slay · 4:06
I used to live by the theory that if I have to worry about trusting you and sit at home and worry and whatever, and I could see this in an established relationship. But newly meeting someone I used it for there as well, where if I have to worry about you, then what am I doing? But the thing is if you don't know someone well enough because that falling in love feeling comes quick. But the staying in love or having that love long term with somebody is different
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