It's brave, it's tender. It's almost impossible to connect without it. But we have turned it into a weakness. We have made ourselves, and I put it in quotes, strong. We have toughened up, hardened up and protected ourselves from being hurt. We have protected ourselves from vulnerability. And that is where the problem is. When we close down our vulnerability, we are shielded from hurt. But we are also shielded from love, from intimacy and from connections
So sometimes it happens in such a way that because of our vulnerability, we might faced a lot of issues in the past because of which we actually want to stop being vulnerable and stop ourselves from being available to everyone. And I never thought that vulnerability would be a bridge to build connections
MindOverMatter
@DTalks · 3:36
Hi, Sri Gauri. Thank you so much for this reply. And yes, I totally agree with you. And for the longest period of my life also, I always had a problem with being vulnerable. I mean, I didn't even know that I was not able to be vulnerable. Even if I tried, just couldn't, something would I would begin to open up. And reflexively, I would hold myself back. And then eventually I would completely shut down
And when we shut it down, we shut down possibilities of joy, intimacy, closeness, gratitude, connection. And when people believe they're worthy of connection, they'll likely move towards others. They'll be the first one to say, I love you or miss you. And they'll ask for help. They'll be open to love, affection, they'll be grateful, they'll be connected. So I think vulnerability is a very strong trait that we all should have
Swell Team
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Swati Sharma
@Swatiselflove · 4:16
We all feel broken, we all feel sad. We all have that need to feel safe with someone. And this is what is really what I personally feel is the biggest psychological need for anyone. And it goes even beyond that material wealth or anything else. And love is another form of vulnerability. You very rightly said love is something that makes you feel vulnerable from inside. This actually shows that how much you want yourself to be accepted by the other person