Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 1:17
NO TALKING REQUIRED : What are some of the things you do with friends & family that don’t require conversation & can be shared so deeply without it?
So I thought I'd ask what people do with friends, family, people they want to spend time with. But where there's this implied sense of breath and Ah and pause that really is shared equally, as if you're speaking. But you don't have to speak because you're experiencing something so beautiful. And if you have that idea, maybe we can share it here so people can get ideas to do things in that space when they don't have to always be talking. I love talking
But when I do, our kind of thing is that we wake up really early and we run together and we watch the sunrise. Ever since I was a kid, he forced me to run like half marathons and really tried to train me. So yeah, now I hated it when I was a kid. But now I appreciate just going on a run with my dad and I appreciate it more now that his body he's having more issues with his knees or his health
Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 0:22
Hey, Jay. You reminded me of when my dad and I used to go in the boat. Kind of nice, kind of quiet. But I know he wanted me to learn stuff, too, so. But I didn't feel pressured. But it seems like your dad wanted you to be a great runner. But now look at you. You're running, so it all works out. Thanks for that. It's beautiful
Brandon Novara
@theaveragejoe · 1:34
There are often times where we used to go on long I wouldn't say long trips, but significant days, you're not gone quick trips. You're gone for four, five, six to ten days. And you have those moments where you're on the beach or you're hiking or you're just sitting in the room together and you're all happy. You're all perfectly content
So if you're around people who you don't need to feel like you need to impress, ideally, like you said, Deb, close friends, family, or anyone you would like to spend time with, I think more than identifying what are some of the activities we can do to isolate the experience of non talking, perhaps we try to shift our mindset into the practice of not talking. For instance, my partner and me when we're in the morning, sometimes we wake up early, whatever
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Brandon Novara
@theaveragejoe · 1:28
Yeah, you brought up a good point. You know, a lot of people feel the need to talk during every situation, every moment, because it's almost like we've been trained that that's the only way to communicate or that's the only way to show appreciation or understanding or feelings. And sometimes silence is so much more than that. I think a lot of times people mistake silence for uncomfortableness or misunderstanding, and that's not the case
But we would pick an audiobook usually or usually an audiobook, sometimes a podcast. But we would just ride sometimes for stretches of just hours and hours, not talk, just listen or just sit together, but just to have them next to me and I don't know, like a really good way for us to connect, even without talking. So anyway, I just had a couple of memories of that while you were asking your questions. So I thought I would hop on and share mine