getting into new romantic relationships
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But to put in perspective, you have a set of friends and you have different relationships with each and every friend. And so when you go out and you try to make new friends, you don't expect your new friends to be just like your current friends. And so you can apply that into relationships. And that just because your ex partner was a certain way doesn't necessarily mean that the next person to come into your life will be just like that
A lot of people got out of a kind of long term relationship last year, and I'm actually currently dating someone new and a I totally just think that in a lot of ways, we compartmentalize all these things throughout our relationships, and then when we're in a new one, we kind of push all of these traumas that we've experienced, or all of these may be expectations from a partner that we've experienced onto the new person
And so I just want you to know that you're not alone in this because she's also gone through past traumas with her previous partner while dealing with the current partner of hers. And I think it's really important one to acknowledge that you may be projecting past traumas onto your current partner, but while also acknowledging this forgiving yourself for doing so. Because dealing with trauma such as that is not easy and it's not a one and done thing
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