Or, oh my God, what are the repercussions of this? Because in my experience, I've had very few times where I've actually been like, oh my gosh, or there's been times in my life where I've been like, oh my God, that was such a great experience. I wonder if so and so now is going to think of me as somebody that could potentially be like someone that they want to be in a relationship with or maybe this could go somewhere
Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 3:35
You're fortifying yourself so that when something comes into your life that is so natural and so beautiful and so easy and so right, sex will be the perfect expression of that love. And it won't be a physical act. It will be an emotional, spiritual act. And those that just want a physical act, they're doing it. They're having it. That's their way
Chelsea Hanawalt
@allowthesun · 2:05
Hi. First off, thank you so much for starting this conversation. I think it's a really important one that we just don't talk about. I think that now we're of days and probably for always sex has just always been like interface or like the pressure if you have too much sex and you're this if you don't have any sex and it's like. Come on
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Zara Lisbon
@ZLisbon · 4:56
And then also like the drunk days and the days of people pleasing where I'm not dying to have sex with this person, but I will because I'm a people pleaser. I can't believe that is part of my life and my days in the past part of my story because it's hard to relate to now. Like if I'm not even like a little in the mood, it's a no brainer
Zara Lisbon
@ZLisbon · 2:47
And for me, that unfortunately means even my husband, who's the most kind, loving, understanding sometimes I feel like he's more of a feminist than I am. Even if that's possible. It is possible. Sometimes I feel like he's more of a feminist than I am, radically
Chloe Kaminskas
@chlomonsta · 4:16
But it's so interesting to kind of see how you now are in this relationship where you feel respected and you feel like, oh, I don't have to feel like, oh, does this guy like me is just using me? Like, you're married. That's awesome. That's why I think commitment is honestly such a cool thing because you give a part of your life to somebody and you're like, okay, well, I love you, you love me
Zara Lisbon
@ZLisbon · 2:03
You absolutely can be in my shoes one day. When it comes to love and romance, once you let go of the whole, like not knowing your worth, like thinking anyone who gives you attention is like doing you a favor and I'm not good enough. So therefore if he tells me I'm amazing. Then I need him in order to continue feeling amazing or he doesn't want to commit to me because I'm not good enough