@Charlieri
Charlie Olivieri
@Charlieri · 1:17

Do you still talk with you ex(es)?

But then the exes that I have connected with reconnected with stayed connected with. I've had really beautiful connections with really indepth kind of almost familial connections in that you can sort of return to this person and they've known you very well at one part of your life, and they still know you to some extent. But you can also see how each other have grown. And I think it's a beautiful kind of relationship that can be had there

What's your relationship with your ex, and do you think staying connected with previous partners can be valuable?

@PKBriggs
Sontaia Briggs
@PKBriggs · 1:19

Sometimes and depends on the ending 😏@Charlieri

And it could be like an unhealthy connection if we stay connected. Or sometimes when things end with people, there's this instinctual thing that some have to try to automatically roll it into a friendship, which I always say we're not friends. I mean, we're lovers. So now we're not just automatically friends. We just know each other. We have this level of intimacy which may or may not be comfortable because depending on whatever happened in the situation
@NLOFrank
Tasha Frank
@NLOFrank · 4:54
I have always said that I don't think I would ever be able to to remain friends with an ex partner because I just thought, how do you see somebody that you want to have different relationship with and have that kind of I think I saw it at the time as a bit like a downgrading of our relationship, which sounds really awful, but that's kind of like we were in such an intimate relationship. Now we're a bit more stand offish
@Swell
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15

Welcome to Swell!

@Charlieri
Charlie Olivieri
@Charlieri · 2:49

@PKBriggs @NLOFrank Is it about closure?

And instead of grasping for a relationship again, we just went for a coffee, spent some time together, laughed at each other's jokes. And that's how it came to become the friendship that we have now, where we don't have to see each other all the time. But when we do, it's beautiful and we have really silly senses of humor together. And it's always a nice time. Like we could do anything, and it would be great fun
@NLOFrank
Tasha Frank
@NLOFrank · 4:19

Sorry for the babbling

I think because going back to the fact that I have been together for twelve years, and I was thinking when you're talking about kind of friendships and stuff that actually you're often a friend first with the person, even if you've got into a relationship straight away and you are not strictly friends first, you are often best friends with the person you're in a relationships with. So even though part of our relationships has ended, we were first and foremost, best friends
@Shashwat21
Shashwat Amonkar
@Shashwat21 · 0:30

My POV.

I just feel it shouldn't be the case every single time when you kind of have a good relationships after you demolish a relationship. So yeah, that's my point of you when it comes to a kind of a relationship which is ended. And I just feel that moving on is the best option. But the execution for that is quite tough
@ruhilodh
Ruhi Lodh
@ruhilodh · 2:21

I don’t and here’s why I don’t.

Like people remain friends with their exes and they are also in a new relationship with someone else but they are also friends with their excess which is like I don't judge obviously but it's not something I relate to or you can say that I don't like that concept. It's just a personal opinion anyways. But that was my answer
@Shashwat21
Shashwat Amonkar
@Shashwat21 · 1:02

@ruhilodh

Hello? Ruhi? Yeah, okay. I just feel the thing. What you just said really makes sense, okay? Because one cannot be friends with someone you have truly loved. Okay, that's insane. I don't know, it's like a crappy thing to execute
@ruhilodh
Ruhi Lodh
@ruhilodh · 1:02
I mean, it's completely an individual concept. And I obviously don't judge. I respect everybody's preferences and they're like thinking, but I don't go by that
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