@bowie
Bowie Rowan
@bowie · 2:50

Ask a Failure | 'What Is Love?'

article image placeholder'What is love?'
Trust where you feel drawn right now. Say no to whatever and whoever asks you to hurry up and give them what they want, that's not love. That's treating other human beings like their Amazon. I know because I've done it and I felt what it's like to be asked for it. What is love? That is the real question you are asking right now. Love for you does not need to mean moving in or marriage

#askafailure #advice #love https://s.swell.life/SSvP96HdldpbUIS

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@dzakyem
Dzakye M
@dzakyem · 5:00

All my wisdom (!) and experience expressed in a 5-mibute response!...

That's what I mean. So in order to not stay at this recommendation to be a hero, because a lot of people included, we don't want or we don't know how to be heroes and we don't feel like being heroes all the time. My hint would be try to find if the relationship is feeding you, because as I noticed in a relationship I was in where I was the person constantly giving and receiving nothing in return. This was really the important moment, the important realization
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@bowie
Bowie Rowan
@bowie · 2:41

@dzakyem Being our own hero

And for me, I think being able to talk openly and freely about how we imagine and picture love and what that looks like and is continuing to look like and change as life impacts us and changes us is maybe what I would define as being my own hero in love
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@Swell
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15

Welcome to Swell!

@anneflorentyna

Love can be many things at once. And I admire that.

I learned all of this from the people I've seen who have lasted long years in relationships, be it my grandparents, my parents, and there are a few couple that I admire. It is from them I take that sacrifice isn't bad, but to what extent is up to each person? So yes, that is what I'd like to say. Love can be many things at once. Thank you
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@bowie
Bowie Rowan
@bowie · 1:20

@anneflorentyna beautiful thank you

I absolutely loved your response. Thank you so much for taking the time to articulate and share your thoughts on this. I especially loved what you had to say about liberation and independence and acceptance. That all very much resonates with my experience and also what I have learned about love over the years and how I have felt most loved and how others in my life have felt most loved in relationship with me. And I think that it can continue to grow and change in all those ways
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