So they will see a woman maybe in a bar or outside. And if they find them attractive or they feel like they want to speak with them, they will be more inclined to approach a woman, whereas I feel women are more subtle and maybe a woman may give a guy a look or a woman might walk past the guy to get his attention, but they would not be as upfront as a man would. So that's my take. I think men are better at shooting their shot than women
Angela Yaa
@AngelaYaa7 · 2:14
I think we've been acculturated into believing that we should not shoot our shot. And I think that's why you got some of us who are still alone or don't have who we really want. I'm not saying just bowl them down left and right. But I am saying if you see something you like and he hasn't noticed, you get in his face, let him know you're interested and see what happens. That's my take on it
Bolanile O
@Bolanile · 1:29
So that's a really great point. And I do think that men have had more women, women, women better at shooting their shot nature of things. I myself, I prefer for a man to shoot a shot, but I have no issue with putting out certain little flirts and certain ways to let a man know that I am interested and then seeing that, seeing where he is
Angela Yaa
@AngelaYaa7 · 3:19
Absolutely. If the brother is an upfront brother and he's not about playing the field or even if he's a lot of men are not really serious in their relationships and so they will entertain more than one woman. Traditionally, I think women tend to date exclusively while men are not dating exclusively. And I think that might actually be a topic for another day
Bolanile O
@Bolanile · 0:55
How is the shop being shot? And does that also translate to online? Because there's online dating dating sites, there's also no social media in which people can shoot their shots. So how does the shooting the shot for women extend to the online space
Lisette Green
@Iamsetty8 · 3:30
What did I do right? What did I do wrong? And what are my cues, my nonverbal cues, or what am I actually saying directly to the person to let them know that I am interested? So it's a great conversation. And I think you only have one life to live and one time to make that impression. Possibly you may see that person in the supermarket, at the gas station, at the library or wherever, and then you may never see that person again
Lisette Green
@Iamsetty8 · 3:55
I would like to respond on some of these subtle and direct ways that I make it known that I'm interested. So when it comes to the social media platform, I've been listening to a lot of conversations on how men and want to be approached or what they find attractive in how a woman approaches them. And so when it comes to going into that DM and presenting yourself, it's not enough to say Hi and leave it like that, or how are you doing?
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 2:36
I've been on different sides of that where I misread a lady, and she said, no, I don't see you that way. And there are times where a lady said, Why didn't you talk to me? I was into you, and it could have been the same person, pretty much. So. I don't know. It's up in the air, but yeah, I think men have more practice at it
Bolanile O
@Bolanile · 2:22
But what are some ways that women can clearly, Besides the look and the smile, Besides just being upfront and completely direct? Because, as in Dewan's case, maybe the person may say, oh, no, you misread me, I'm not interested, I'm not available or whatever. How do you clearly shoot the shot where it's more subtle and not too late upfront, but also where it's a clear message
Darrisha Daniel
@Dee94 · 3:43
So I've been meaning to reply and engage with this conversation because I consider myself a very outspoken woman, and especially if I find someone attractive, I will give the looks I'll do everything unnecessary for a connection to be made. And if we end up having a conversation, I feel like that's when you give a number or you make, like, a flirtatious joke, something to signal that this is more than me just being interested in you as a person
Bolanile O
@Bolanile · 2:20
But I guess for women, it's mostly just the looking, the smiling, maybe even passing a note or having someone send the person to drink that sort of thing. But yeah, I feel like it's something that we could probably work on. I don't see any harm in women being more taking more ownership in terms of going after what they want. And if they see something that they desire, letting it be known
Lisette Green
@Iamsetty8 · 1:24
Hey, B, I just wanted to respond to your last comment about when the woman shoots their shot and then leaves the ball in the man's court. So let's say that the conversation is going, they're talking back and forth for or perhaps texting. And then there's this long delay of nothingness. You know, people call it ghosting or the person just fell off. And I guess they're not interested
Bolanile O
@Bolanile · 4:11
Hi Lizet, thank you for your response. And in terms of ghosting, I think that there's a clear difference in terms of mutually not being interested and ghosting. I feel like for me, ghosting is when someone is not interested, they completely are unresponsive. But the other party is trying to get in contact with the ghoster and I feel like that's rude