To go find something that is an actual true match. Find someone who is an actual true match with me, right? Sometimes we tell ourselves that this person is the be all, the end all, the must have item on our list. But in reality, that person might actually just like the idea of you, the concept of you, the way that you make them feel
Jordan Tepper
@JordanTepper · 4:07
I know, like, one friend I was having a hard time with a relationship with, and he was just like, well, if it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out because he's on his second marriage. But then again, he's on his second marriage, but I didn't know any relationships that he was actually in. And I've known this guy since I was a sophomore in high school, and we're still friends
Jordan Tepper
@JordanTepper · 3:55
After three days, we started texting, became, like, good friends all of a sudden, just like ghosts. And I helped her through talking to her through a bad relationship and their breakup and her divorce. Divorce and a bad relationship are two different relationships. And then ghosts. And then she's like, we're best friends. I'm like, but best friends don't like ghosts for, like, months at a time or don't respond try to have a conversation back
Carly D
@Astroality · 3:11
So you gave a whole bunch of really good examples. It's like your friend that was dating someone else, but always used you as kind of like the leaning post, right? That's someone who's teaching you about your worth so that you don't continue to stay in a connection where you're not getting what you actually desire, you're not getting what you actually deserve. You're getting whatever it is that they serve. So it's teaching you how to walk away
Carly D
@Astroality · 2:40
What happens, though, people will stay in connections because they're like, but that person's been my best friend for 30 years, or this person I've been in love with for ten years and just can't get past it. And you're like, but if you can't get past it, that means you're not learning the lesson that you were here to learn. Does that make more sense?
And friends and then close friends and then people that you fellowship with, and then the ultimate person that you end up being with for the rest of your life. And I started to understand that Mike the universe or and or God puts people in and takes people out with and without your permission. And I'm understanding that a soul mate doesn't have to be romantic. This is happening to me now, right?
But it's communication there. It's things that come with that. It involves another person and there's confirmations that come so where you really can't get it confused. So the same way that this particular person can see right through me and touch my soul or touch my heart, I can do the same with her. So it can be an exchange there, you know what I mean? So that's where you can get that soul mate
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Carly D
@Astroality · 1:26
It's because they bring that warmth, that comfort, that love, that attention, that affection, whatever it is, that friendship, the companionship that says, like, this is my space, this is my person, this is my place. I'm in the right place. And you talked about how God lines things up immediately for you, right. You end up running into the store unexpectedly and you meet someone who knows someone who knows someone