There's the idea that children that don't have a daddy are left out and left behind. I saw this interesting post where I believe a woman posted that there was a daddy Daughter dance and that her daughter didn't have a dad available to go, and one of her friends stepped up and said, hey, tell me the time and the place, and I'll go and take her. And so in the comments when people were saying, wow, that was nice
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 3:19
But I am a mother figure for the kids that are at our agency. So I try to do things like we're going to do a cookie decoration event with popcorn and movies and the foster parents are going to make reeves. So we try to do things and we're going to have a Christmas dinner. So we try to do things like that. But you can never not miss anybody. There's always going to be somebody left out so we can't always make everybody happy
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 2:57
If you have a small enough school, you could probably, if you wanted to, kind of see the demographics of the children, if you wanted to, and see if on the parent the student information sheet, if you're not finding like 50% that have a father in the home, maybe you want to call it something different, right? Or not. You can call it, like I said, daddy, daughter, mother, son, and whatever happens, happens. Right
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
But I won't say that I didn't feel excluded. I certainly felt excluded. But I think back in the day were really meant to really show little girls, like how men should be treating them, and chivalry, which I wish still existed, and how they should be treated inappropriately
I don't really like the idea of a parent dance because I kind of feel like that cancels out the meaning of the intended purpose of it. And I understand that things change, but there's also things that shouldn't change that are still good. And, um and yeah, I'm just there. Have a good night
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:13
And because of the diversity in the group itself, being that we are an affinity based group there are so many different life circumstances and perspectives and this topic has come up not only in that group, it has also come up in a specific mom group I'm in as well about should we do away with these dances. Now, here's the thing. I have one child
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:38
I'm sure there probably were. We just didn't hear of it. But I think they are very relevant, and they should stay. And if the mother sons want to do things together, that's to stay. Nothing should be eliminated just because you've got a group of people that are offended because they can't do it or their child can't be a part of it
Luce Fonrose
@ilovelucee · 3:52
And then there are other people who their fathers, who their fathers just don't live with them. Like you, if you're a child of divorced parents, then you won't live necessarily with your father in the house if you live with your mother. You know what I mean? So there's always going to be a demographic that gets the short end of the stick. That's a part of life
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 3:43
And so I think we do need to see daddies and daughters because I'm sorry, misse, I kept getting these phone calls. So even though we didn't have it, or just because someone doesn't have money or they don't have a dad or they don't have this, doesn't mean they shouldn't see that. Because there's always something to hope for. Strive for. Right? And I'm okay with that
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 2:34
But I don't know, it's cringe to me personally to me, because too many women kind of make their sons their husband anyway, and I don't want to encourage that. I don't know, it's just different. They always say mom is there. And of course there are kids that are growing up without a mom as well, we know that for sure. But mom is there
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 3:07
He might be working, or like we said, he can't. So it doesn't mean that you don't have a dad if you don't go. So you're not necessarily being singled out. It's one of those things you can't participate in. And for most of these dances that I know of happen really early elementary school years
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 3:36
Let me get them some father figures, their uncle, their coach. Let me find somebody, because this is important. I think if we erase it, then we could be very comfortable in a world where women are always showcased as the bomb.com. And that's not fair. Men need their time to shine as well. And what you said about Mother's Day, father's Day is funny
R. Porchia
@Block24Media · 1:03
In some cases where I'm from, the mother isn't always there. And then worst case scenario, I've seen that where mother and father are not there. And maybe a big brother or big sister is taking care of their younger siblings, just depending on the situation. But, yeah, should remain. Maybe we should look at evolving the title. But yeah, these young ladies definitely need someone to take them to the dance and to really show them that they matter, you know?
Al Cosby
@Cosbyal4165 · 2:37
But interestingly with me, the blessing is that I had my uncles, who are my mother's brothers, they always stepped in as fatherly figures. I had my godfather, of course, and then just me going to church. There were men in the church that they had their own families, but they always took the time to spend time with me and show me things in the church as well as outside of it
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 5:00
And so what about the single fathers who the mother isn't in the home or the mother isn't involved? What about those boys? You know what I mean? How are we going to justify that? It's just crazy. Everybody does not have to be included in everything. And little girls can still go to the dance if their dad isn't there. They can still go. Their mom can take them
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 1:51
Actually, I know quite a few people. But there's a little girl in my heart right now because she's the same age as my son. She lost her mother and father separately about a year apart from each other. And so she is growing up without her mom or her dad. And there's many others. There are many others. And so there's a whole lot of kids that don't even have parents
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 1:31
Hey, what's up, brother Al? Thank you so much for chiming in. Yeah, you definitely get it. You understand about the male village or the males in the village, right? If it's not your biological father, then, hey, uncle, right? And uncle don't have to be biological uncle. He could just be a friend of the family, right? A friend of your dad who's looking out for the family, or a friend of your mom's, whatever
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 3:32
Hey, Andrea. Oh, I love what you said, even when you got to the end about single mothers. And I think JL mentioned that. I don't know if it was on this thread, honestly, or was on the other thread. It might have been on the thread about staying together for the kids, but she broke it down