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Diving into the world of Relationships | In conversation with Ms Ruchi Ruuh

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I'm telling you, this episode is going to make your day. So Hi, Ruchiro, I'm so glad to have you here on Indian Talk. Please tell us a bit about yourself to our listener and share with us of how did you first realize that being a relationship counselor is your arena? And when did you make the decision

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Ruchi Ruuh
@ruchiruuh · 1:16
And because I was a design student and I was always a designer, I was studying a lot of psychology, not formally, but informally, understanding a human mind. Then five years earlier, I decided that I really want to dive deep and become a psychologist. Now, relationships always attracted me because I saw a lot of people around me in bad relationships. Me myself at one point thought, I'm not doing very good work with the relationships and I really wanted to help Ms
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@anneflorentyna

Misconception people have on you!

Thank you so much, Ruchi, for the lovely introduction. And I think you also answered a part of my following question. I wanted to know, why did you focus this area? And I think there could be no other better reason than what you gave. You saw people suffering around you and you wanted to help. And I think that is the most humane thing I've heard in a long time. So as I said before, many concepts on existing in a relationship is misconceived
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Ruchi Ruuh
@ruchiruuh · 2:01
In general, I think the work of a counselor is usually thought of as somebody who is a mind reader. A lot of people have a misconception that counselors, therapy, therapist, psychologists are mind readers. They can just see you talking for a bit and they can tell you about you. It's not the case a therapist or a counselor needs to really understand you, sit down with you, talk to you and understand your patterns
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@anneflorentyna

People's perception of relationships these days?

Yes, Ruchi, honestly, I should say that I'm agreeing here with you about the misconception that people have on you, because that is one thing that I have also felt that I've heard of. And moving on to the next part is, over the last decade, relationships have changed significantly. So technology has become a huge factor in how we look for partners and then in how we maintain in contact with them. How do you think people perceive relationships these days?
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Ruchi Ruuh
@ruchiruuh · 3:28
It's kind of missing now, and it's become a bit more mechanical, I would say, because now you are browsing for partners. You are almost shopping for partners. Now, if I look at a dating profile, I'll see that they've posted some amazing pictures of them. They've written some very cool profile quotation statements. What are they expecting? And then that's all you know, and you click and you start talking to them
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Ruchi Ruuh
@ruchiruuh · 1:20
What we realized later on that it wasn't for us and which is a general part of growing up and experiencing things that you kind of experiment and then you realize it's not for you but getting into something just because there is a peer pressure or it is school, sometimes people end up being hurt
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Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15

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@anneflorentyna

Your personal experience with relationships!

Thank you, Ruchi, for the very in depth answer that you gave for this question. And I think from all that you said, I'm able to gather that people have started taking advantage of the resources that they have and the means which are used to connect with people. And the other thing I was able to understand from what you spoke to learn what we actually need. And I think that is the need of the hour
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Ruchi Ruuh
@ruchiruuh · 2:56
I think I've had a very fulfilling life and I've had very fulfilling, beautiful relationships. I've been married for 17 years, and we share a beautiful chemistry, a camaraderie, a friendship, as you must say. I think overall I've had a very satisfactory relationship, personal as well as professional. And whenever I struggled, I always try to understand, what can I change about me to make this work? I usually don't try to change people around me
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@anneflorentyna

Your definition of Love?

Ruchi, can I say that this answer could never have been articulated any better than the way you have done? I'm really very inspired of how you handle a person who comes to you as asking for help for therapy. That unbiased opinion can be something common among therapists, but how you bring out that mirror in front of them, trying not to validate, instead offering them the help they actually need to work on themselves? I think I'm very mesmerized
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Ruchi Ruuh
@ruchiruuh · 2:47
Understand your partner, invest in your partner, do your work, give room to your partner to do their job, their work, and if still you think they are not addressed, that because love should happen from both the sides. It can't be unrequited. Once I did love
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@anneflorentyna

Thank you!!!

And I think our guest is kind enough to answer all your questions. So thank you so, Ruchi. So much, Ruuh. Once again, I'd be very happy to have you here with me. Until then, it's bye bye from the Brown Indian girl talks. Take care. Have a good night
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Ruchi Ruuh
@ruchiruuh · 0:26
Thank you for having me, Anne. It was a wonderful experience for me. A very new format we explored. Thank you very much for introducing me. And the questions were great, by the way. And I look forward to more questions in in case somebody has a question, feel free to ask me here, and I'll be very happy and honored to reply to everyone. Thank you very much. You're
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@NimishaDhami
Nimisha Dhami
@NimishaDhami · 0:28

@ruchiruuh

Hello. Good evening. It was a really great conversation. And the question that I wanted to ask you is that what was your journey being a psychologist like? How did you shift from being a designer to a psychologist? What course did you undergo or maybe what certifications did you do and how did you do the formal learning of being a psychologist? And also that how has it changed your life from being a designer to a psychologist
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