And in friendship there is an expectation that you can rely on somebody and that this person will show up for you in certain ways. So when someone asks you to give without expectation in return I wonder are they asking you for something that is impossible? And I'm putting it out there to see what others think about this idea of loving without attachment and giving without expectation. Is it a cop out? Is it a thing of reality? What do others think?
Eluchianna Olive
@Luchianna · 2:48
It's just loving of yourself. So you're able to give yourself self love, but that attachment that you may want to have, I don't think that you can. It doesn't mean that you don't feel, but I don't think that you can. If you're a loving being, you can attach yourself to the person, you just attach yourself to love itself, the action which you would do in spite of
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 4:38
And she just said one day, hey, I don't want to hear about that. I don't want to deal with it. And I was, whoa, I was floored. But I was like, I thought that's what friends do. And with what you're talking about now, I realized to some degree it's not always healthy for friends to do that
Ann Canela
@AnnCanela · 1:46
For some reason, your answer actually makes a lot of sense to me. Even though you're struggling, I feel like, with the same question that I am, I don't think there's a right or wrong, either. I guess I just am. Really? Yeah. It is life. And I don't know. I think I, too, am trying to process this. And I do want to show up in love without attachment and give without expectation
Ann Canela
@AnnCanela · 2:12
What your friend said in the gossip, that was a boundary that she drew for you, saying, this is what I will tolerate in friendship, and this is what I will not tolerate. So that was a boundary that she drew. And I think there are boundaries that we draw with each other, and I think that there are ways that we show up with each other that are different and that sometimes those boundaries get confused with expectations
Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 1:56
The more you're there, the more you're going to attract those like you and the more you're going to have that flow and that beauty, friction and intense stuff and all the other trappings of bad communication is basically a result of two people not knowing themselves and not understanding each other. So I really love knowing that language and words like attachment don't even necessarily play a role as much as paying attention to what's happening in the dynamic itself all the time and being in the flow
Ann Canela
@AnnCanela · 2:08
Because, of course, I think that's also my struggle is to love someone is to feel in some ways attached, right? Or to feel a sense of belonging. At least when I think about even just loving my daughter, there's a sense of or my family members. It's hard to do that without feeling a sense of, I guess, attachment. We come attached to our children, right? They are part of our beings in some sense
Cheryl Hill
@BkQue · 4:48
That is attachment more so than all the other type attachments. So, yeah, I think loving someone in all instances, there's an expectation of some type of attachment. Thank you for inviting me
Alan Mehanna
@storiesbyalan · 3:42
And I remembered Yoda's quote when he's talking to Anakin in that scene that is in the picture that I hosted with this reply, he says, the fear of loss is a path to the dark side. Rejoice for those around us who transform into the Force. Mourn them. Do not miss them. Do not attachment leads to jealousy, the shadow of greed that is, train yourself to let go of everything you fear to lose
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Mark Cox
@FreeVoice · 3:58
In those defining of boundaries for those friendships and relationships, there's a lot of safety and that actually allows for full freedom of love within the context of those relationships. So I say, ultimately, I think I agree with you that completely