@ZenMomma
Zen Momma
@ZenMomma · 4:41

#AskSwell What’s in a (user-) Name?

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And so I was just curious how you came across and did this, how much thought you put into it, if it was more something that it was based on what other people have said about you, or based on who you really feel you are or based on what you want from the world or from the social media platform or whatever. And I was just curious where you came up with your username. I'm also wondering what draws you in for the people you do follow

How did you choose your username on social media & what are you drawn to in a name? What elements play a key role in your choice?

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@SeekingPlumb

@ZenMomma

This can be difficult. I remember way back in the day, the things that I reached for, they didn't have a whole bunch of meaning for me. Instead they were like, I know I need a username. And described right blaze was when I remember using I don't know why, but I thought it was cool. But then it was like everybody was using it. I don't even know where it came from. But then I started more thinking about who am I?
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@ZenMomma
Zen Momma
@ZenMomma · 2:44

@SeekingPlumb

You. Hey, Christina. Yeah. A lot of what you said really resonated, but particularly the stuff at the end where you were talking about a username could be kind of like a coat and where you reach out for one that's more appropriate and how you said you just have gotten fortunate that you just happen to choose one that kind of moved with you. And I love that
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@DearAuntyAng
Ann-Gela Kaye
@DearAuntyAng · 2:22
And so I felt that this new platform, which is new for me, would be the perfect opportunity to try my hand at an advice column. And Auntie Ange comes from the idea that with me being 45, I'm not in the grandma stage, I'm not the young girl stage. So the term of endearment of being an auntie is right where I fit in at
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@ROXSTARRA
Rox Starra
@ROXSTARRA · 2:13
And I used to go by the Rocks baby, because for a long time, especially before I turned 30, I was still a child, mentally. And I'm actually growing up now, growing through things. And so now it's rock starra star shines bright full of heavenly gases and that's definitely me. Rocks star ashe
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@Her_Sisu
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 5:00

Sisu meaning part 1

If we dialogue two to three, four times back and forth, that person is responsive to me, I'm responsive to them. I then follow them because I want to have conversation. I just don't want to comment on people's things, and they don't comment back and that they don't do the same to my content. So that's what inspires me to comment not
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J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:57

Choose you, part 2

She said, I want you to remember that you are JL first before this child was ever thought of, conceived and come into being. You are JL first. And it's really important that you maintain JL first things that JL. Wants to do, things that JL. Needs to do, things that JL. Enjoys doing and likes doing
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@momma2bubbas
Tracy Hansen
@momma2bubbas · 1:58

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And I plan to keep that, even though it's a really long name. It's part of my email as well. But I keep it because that's who I am. I'm a mom to two boys, and I'll always be a mom to two boys, so I don't feel the need to change it. I think that even though our life has shifted drastically with the loss of my husband and their dad within this last year, he died in July of 2022
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@Renee_Slay
Renee Slay
@Renee_Slay · 4:26

@ZenMomma

Ahead. I am so late to this and I am so sorry. I've been a little behind for me, so finding myself about to go through another divorce and my whole reality is shifting again. And in in the time that I was with and then married to my husband, a lot was going on with my family, who I experienced all the childhood trauma with. Right. And I became estranged from all of my family except for my youngest son
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@aBirdieOnaWire
Wren .
@aBirdieOnaWire · 3:30
So my chosen name is Wren, like the little bird. And although in many of my photos and the way I present myself is pretty feminine, some might even argue pretty high FEM, I consider myself non binary, and I'm an envy. And so a bird wren on a wire is, you know, straddling, you know, the you know, the dichotomy, the binary of man and woman. I'm, like, in the middle
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@MsColes77
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 1:45
It's. Hey, I don't pay attention to usernames, to be honest with you. My name is my last name, my name is Tanya Coles. My username is Miss Coles. 77. 77 is the year that I was born and I've pretty much just kept it that simple. Usually when I choose a username, it's a combination of my birth month, my birth date, my middle name, my first name. It's always a combination of those things
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@ZenMomma
Zen Momma
@ZenMomma · 5:00

@Her_Sisu

And then also I tend to be really good with hard and I have worked in domestic violence and then in capacity and families as a professional nanny and then a parenting coach and consultant. And so I tended to be really close to people going through hardships. 2020 obviously was a very hard time these last few years, I think for a lot of people and I was surrounded by that and my natural in some situations. It was my job
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@ZenMomma
Zen Momma
@ZenMomma · 5:00

@Her_Sisu

But that's not going to be and support and things like that, but that's not going to be my focus. My focus is actually to really tap in to the things that make my heart sing. And I think that that is a shift that's needed right now to kind of shake me out of just being in a place of sorrow. And I think it will really help me to heal. And that's one of the reasons why I'm here
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@ZenMomma
Zen Momma
@ZenMomma · 4:17

@Her_Sisu

So I really appreciate you adding to this conversation so much and I'm really glad that you had a friend who helped you as a mother before you even started really putting to perspective and help. I think we sell women particularly a bill of goods on motherhood and parenting and it's not that it's not all those wonderful things but it's also all these hard things that we don't tell and then there's the swings to the other pendulum
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@ZenMomma
Zen Momma
@ZenMomma · 4:05

@DearAuntyAng

That kind of I think regardless of what our age is, kind of grow us up fast, that if we survive certain things, you have some insight into how to get through things and what helped and didn't help and all that kind of stuff. So I really am glad that you're here. I love your voice is very encouraging
@ZenMomma
Zen Momma
@ZenMomma · 2:59

@ROXSTARRA

And I feel like it's kind of been something I've been buried inside of me and I've kind of been crawling out more and more and more with that and getting more comfortable in my skin as I both age. And also the more hard things that happen to you that don't, you know, the things that don't kill you do make you stronger
@ZenMomma
Zen Momma
@ZenMomma · 5:00

@momma2bubbas

And just because our needs are a little different, I commend you for doing and being and being the role that gives you the most purpose and joy. And I also want to offer, obviously, my deepest condolences. I'm very sorry for your loss, the loss to your family and for your sons as well
@ZenMomma
Zen Momma
@ZenMomma · 4:07

@NextLevelNothin

And we've noticed different trends in games that have been really interesting and cool and games are moving past just the objective of whatever it is. Like first person shooters or going through puzzles or mazes or whatever and into actually social almost in some ways like I think experiments or just delving into different I don't know, even the stuff that I don't don't do personally I find interesting. And some of it is just an outlet for some part of ourselves anyway
@ZenMomma
Zen Momma
@ZenMomma · 5:00

@Renee_Slay

Hey, Renee. Thank you for your response and just the realness that you brought to this as far as talking about the combination of your own journey with your username and how connected it is to where you are about your your name and your your a family name and such. And there's so much about this I related to. So I've been married three times, third times a charm. And it is I am with my person, and if anything were to happen to her, I'm done
@ZenMomma
Zen Momma
@ZenMomma · 5:00

@aBirdieOnaWire

So they also feel we we have joked for years I drive Priuses and that, you know, my wife is also a hybrid. But I love that complexity of humans because we want to think that everything is this or that, black or white, whatever, but the truth is scrape under the surface of just about anything about any of us, and it's just not that simple
@ZenMomma
Zen Momma
@ZenMomma · 4:57

@aBirdieOnaWire

But for those of us who do have some difference in understanding of maybe who we thought we were, who others thought we were or should be, or who we used to be or whatever it is that a username, you can create it, reinvent it, you can reinvent yourself. And there's something very empowering about that. And I think that that's kind of where I am is wanting to empower myself for the next chapter in my life
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@ZenMomma
Zen Momma
@ZenMomma · 3:24

@MsColes77

Ahead. Hi, Tanya. Thank you for adding to this conversation. I appreciate that you took the time, even though the way that you see things like you don't have, it's not significant for you what your username is and stuff. It's just very practical, and let's get to the, you know, get to the meat of things and stuff and the content and and what this person's all about. And I can appreciate that too
@Renee_Slay
Renee Slay
@Renee_Slay · 1:31

@ZenMomma

And it's way too expensive for people that have dealt with past trauma to do that and I hadn't even thought about that before. But someone does need to advocate for that. So that's actually brilliant. We shouldn't have to be fined for stepping outside of situations that we're abusive and out of our control. So brilliant. Brilliant. I can't wait to see what yours is going to be. New chapter. I love it
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