And he used that as an opportunity to basically, say, wasn't interested in continuing a relationship with his siblings. And the reason why that's interesting to me is because even if he was really upset and felt like this was a legitimate reason not to speak to my aunts, this situation had nothing to do with me or my brothers or any of the other cousins. So I still don't understand why he is uninterested in having a relationship with myself and my brothers and other cousins
Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 3:50
But we are linked inextricably, like you say, to the fact that we have blood and we have people that come from the same family structure. But it's sad. Your story feels kind of low vibrational from your perspective because you tell it so well. It's like, yeah, this happened and you're sibling seeing him out in the world and knowing that he's there and like it feels so sad because it's only upon deep reflection at a later point will he realize what did I do?
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 4:37
I'm not going to lie. I'm having problems or I'm struggling to respond to this well shaniqua because I am unfamiliar. I won't say I'm unfamiliar, but I have a personality reality that can lean towards unfamiliar my family at times. I always find my older brother and younger sister to be big proponents of family. I'm usually the one that everyone sees every other couple or so years. It's like the Olympics
Shaniqua Murrell
@wayuphigh · 1:16
And I think if my uncle was interested in trying to build a bridge, at least through us first, that we would all be open to that. I think we would be a little bit more willing to extend him some grace and have a conversation if he ever chose to reconcile with us or deal with whatever it is that he's dealing with, because I really don't think it has anything to do with us
Shaniqua Murrell
@wayuphigh · 3:56
But in my immediate family, me being the oldest and the only girl, I think that plays a part into it because my baby brother, outside of him having a relationship with my cousin and how he's close to him, it's really not like that. He's not really like that with anybody else. I'm the only one this is interesting
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 3:29
Yes, I am indeed the middle child, older brother, younger sister. And yeah, I've always been the one that I always felt like I had the option to go to family functions. I was never obligated to go, so I would always kind of not go. It was a lot easier when I was younger, but most of the time I'm usually kind of like I am asked, could you come around more?
Shaniqua Murrell
@wayuphigh · 1:01
Thanks for responding and letting me know that I knew that kind of based on how you were headed with the conversation that maybe you were a middle child. But I don't think that me as the oldest child has gotten any more respect than my brothers. In fact, I'd argue that they get more than me
Aayan B
@aayanisms · 4:04
One that of the family bonding, UN FamilyD relations and second as individuals in society, as major grown up adults in the society and so oftentimes we manage these two identities very differently with the family. There are that much more considerations that much more acceptability and flexibility and all that yet when we are individuals representing ourselves in society we are a bit more curt if you will, guarded if you will, watch out on self interest if you will all of these things