@queenbodyAdria
Adria Simmons
@queenbodyAdria · 0:17

Why is it easy, but hard???

Why is it so easy for us to protect someone else's heart feelings and their dreams, but we find it so hard to protect our own heart, our own dreams, our own feelings. Why is that?

#relationships #life #mentalhealth #protection #mattersoftheheart #easy #hard #goodheart #growth #mindset #Narcissist

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@FryedOreo
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 0:38

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I need a bit more examples. I don't really understand the question in regards to for protecting someone's dreams in their heart. I don't I don't understand what that is pertaining to. Could you give me just a little more background? That sounds like alien language to me. Maybe that makes sense in your head. But for me, I'm like, why am I protecting someone's heart dreams? Because I don't think I do that
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@queenbodyAdria
Adria Simmons
@queenbodyAdria · 1:16

@FryedOreo

Hey. I definitely will give a little bit more clarification. I'm not sure if you've ever been in a committed relationship or even in a marriage of some type. You know. Or or even in a very strong friendship. And you basically poured into the other person as it related to what they wanted to do or who they wanted to be. But taking away from yourself as it relates to who you want it to be or things that you wanted to do in life
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@FryedOreo
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 2:12

@queenbodyAdria i think i understand.

Sorry to hear that, that dissolved. But obviously that's a long time together with somebody, not including the years you probably together prior to the marriage. You're kind of left to pick up the pieces and work yourself back up to a point where you're at prior previously or maybe even a new frontier of discovery of yourself and your purpose and your confidence. And to that I say keep doing it
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@PeacefulBee
Rebecca Amy
@PeacefulBee · 3:56

@queenbodyAdria

And we're going to let ah, my almost husband to go about his business and I'm going to find out who I Amy again and I'm going to do what I need to do to take care of me. And I just want to be happy, as happy as I want them to be. That's how happy I want to be. And I'm going to work on that
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@queenbodyAdria
Adria Simmons
@queenbodyAdria · 1:21

@FryedOreo

Hey. Thank you so much. I got a lot of different nuggets out of what you said. Yeah. So I have a lot to think about and a lot to go and write about. But I definitely, definitely will say the selflessness. When you are in that position, you are selfless. You really are not looking at it on an individual level. More so on a unit. But that makes sense. It's not ever tip for tat, especially while you're in it
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@onwardandupward
Adam E.L. Anthony
@onwardandupward · 2:14
You know, hey, thank you for your swell and the continued conversation providing some clarification. I do want to say that I understood the direction that you were going, that I believed at least you were going, going with this topic. And a couple of thoughts that I have is one some people are just genuinely wired to be givers and the encouragers and those who uplift, those who give effort, those who show up
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@Swell
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15

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@queenbodyAdria
Adria Simmons
@queenbodyAdria · 2:26

@PeacefulBee

My children tell me all the time, they're like, mom, we're grown. And I'm like, hey, you all are grown. But I still amy not doing anything, and I could be doing so much more. I've gotten in great shape. I've started eating healthier, and I could be doing more. I'm sorry. My mom keeps calling me, but I could be doing more
@queenbodyAdria
Adria Simmons
@queenbodyAdria · 3:40

@onwardandupward

What we have to think about is how to stop or how to balance it or how to determine, hey, this is not okay. This is a one sided everything and one sided anything doesn't work for the better of that individual. So again, I totally respect and heard and definitely appreciate what's you said. It just resonated with me so much, like so much. And I really appreciate your response. Thanks. Bye
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@iamtanishi
Tanishi Singhal
@iamtanishi · 0:01
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@MomstheWord
Maegan Bean
@MomstheWord · 4:21
And I think if you're leading with that, it is so easy to just expect reciprocity, which is what sure, sorry, I have a snack interruption. It's so easy to expect that reciprocity, to expect that your partner who also loves you, presumably and cares about your feelings and your dreams, that of course they'll do that back for you. And unfortunately, along with that, we're not given a lot of tools to ask for what we need
@cassidywat
Cassidy Waterson
@cassidywat · 1:28

Hope this makes sense :)

Her name was Bo, and she kind of opened my eyes, in a sense, because she really like her, I guess, love for me and that sense of protection and compassion, the connection we had that I had with a dog who, like I don't know, it's very special connection their whole life is you, I guess
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