Brianna B
@briaNNA099-._ · 4:48
Meeting and Having REAL Friends
But the point I'm making is that it feels like I'm behind socially. When I look at my pairs, they have friend groups or just one or two people that are their real friends, close friends. And I just feel like I don't have that at all, especially since move here. And I feel like I should be further along with friendships and yeah, it just feels really lonely and bumpy
Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 3:32
A lot of times people make friends at work, they make friends at church, they make friends walking their dog. And all of a sudden you see the same person, like, every day. And then you invite them for tea, and then that evolves or whatever. But sometimes there's more compression and something happens really fast because of the circumstance. It's a wonder, actually. It's a dance. It's a beautiful dance
Georgie Dee
@GeorgieDee · 3:19
However, sometimes you make friends quickly and then you realize, actually, you're not my type of person after all. So that has happened to me in the past. But like Deborah said, you know, just on the street. Like, I remember moving to the eastern states of Australia when I was about 36, and I made friends with people who lived in the house opposite me. I think one day we bumped into each other almost literally
Georgie Dee
@GeorgieDee · 1:19
But neither of them have ever stopped being my friend. It just comes in seasons. And now maybe we can apply that to what you're going through at the moment. Maybe you're not supposed to have any. I know this sounds terrible, but maybe you're supposed to be sitting in this moment of loneliness. I don't want you to be lonely. But I don't know. As a thought, maybe it's a moment to pause and breathe. I know it's five years old
Aayan Banerjee
@BasTalk · 3:27
Over a period of time, those acquaintances become good acquaintances, and they eventually turn into friends and then good close friends. So it's a gradual progress. And in this path, in this course, there will be times that it will go through a plateau, flat phase where there isn't much happening. There will be a phase when you're probably arguing with each other, and then there will be a phase where you enjoy each other's company the most
Lance Watson
@lwatsonjr · 4:53
We claim a friendship, but it doesn't necessarily belong to us because at the blink of an eye and I'm sure you've probably had this experience at 32 already, you can lose a friendships life as quick as you gain it. And one of the things that's really been helpful for me is really sort of flipping the idea of acquiring friends or getting friends or having friends upside down and rather becoming learning how to be a really good friend. And I know that sounds oversimplified
Brianna B
@briaNNA099-._ · 0:55
Hey, Deborah. Thank you. You are so kind. Yeah, I think I've definitely started that first step and making little progress every day just just saying hi more to people or just trying to strike a conversation here or there. But, yeah, I'm definitely looking forward to my pillar friends. Those are those deep ones. Those are the ones that I'm looking forward to. But, yeah, thank you for your very thoughtful response and your Californian way of expressing it
Brianna B
@briaNNA099-._ · 1:49
But, yeah, I'll just smile more. That is so true. I don't smile that often in public. Like, if someone look at me and they're smiling and it's not about but I don't really go around smiling as often as I could. You know what I mean?
Brianna B
@briaNNA099-._ · 1:01
Oh, wow. Oh wow. What you're seeking is also seeking you. Oh, my word. Well, thank you. Thank you so much. Yourself and Georgie mentioned about doing engaged in different groups and activities. That is something I have not explored and I will be looking into that because I did thought of joining like, a group on Facebook that does hiking because I love hiking and anything outdoor. I had some reservations about that which can definitely be worked out
Brianna B
@briaNNA099-._ · 1:25
I have these values and standards for my friends. So I definitely really benefited from you sharing that again, because it's, like, so true. The panels past the past dictate the present when we haven't really examined and reflect to make changes. So thank you. Bye
Habeeb Khan
@Habkhan26 · 4:26
So maybe it's an age thing that posts 25, you start maturing and you start becoming more of a fellow kind of a person, rather than being dependent on others. But what I have, like being this not so dependent on others, being an independent person, is that I don't have to be dependent for my happiness on others. Right. And also at the same time, being alone. I have traveled to a number of different countries
Brianna B
@briaNNA099-._ · 2:58
So a bigger part of me yearn for friendships and so I wish I could just tell you that, yeah, I could definitely be totally comfortable alone. I've definitely learned over the years since being a different country, to enjoy my company way more. So it's not as miserable as when I was just thrown into the situation, but it still has its challenges because as I said, there's just a part of kind of how I'm wired where I like to have people around me anyways
Georgie Dee
@GeorgieDee · 1:20
Spring is coming early this year and I'm so glad you understand my sense of humor. Not everybody does. So, yeah, we're friends now, okay? There's no escape. And if you want to send me a private message, I can never find the private messages on here, but if you want to send me private messages and we can have a private chat, feel free. If you want to unburden yourself about the difficulties about smiling, which I still struggle with as well
Brianna B
@briaNNA099-._ · 1:12
And yes, my friend. Hi. Georgie, my friend. Nice to meet you. Thank you for the compliment and enjoy your day. Well, it's now 6.1. Where am us, so I'm literally ending my Thursday. So I'm guessing maybe it's like Friday for you. Friday morning. To have a fantastic Friday. Going into the weekend. Talk soon
Georgie Dee
@GeorgieDee · 0:35
Winter is coming. Spring is coming. Hey, Brianna, what's your little three year old name? Adorable. Is it she? When she said Miss Georgie, I just melted. Can you tell me her name? And then I'll put a little message on just for her. Kids. Love that. Spring is coming. I can see new friends walking through the door. I am smiling. No resting beach faces for me anymore. Oh, maybe don't play this one to her
Hey, Brianna. Thank you so much for sharing that bit. I think there are lots of people across the world that feel the same way, that feel like they don't fit in, like they feel left out and that they don't connect to the people, people around them. I go through this quite often. I'm in a very public sort of job, by the way. I work as a presenter. I work as an entertainer, musician of sorts
Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 0:39
It's been so great to be a part of the thread, to listen to the thread and to hear your response beneath, specifically about doing what you love to do, because that's such a magnetic choice and it attracts and circumstances that support us and attracts people that are like minded. And in that sort of circle, a lot of things can emerge, including great connections. So I just wanted to second that
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
There has to be some type of connection, some type of chemistry. We have to have things in common. It's like a relationship. We have to be able to balance each other out and as women, be able to say, hey, I found that statement offensive, or I didn't like the way you word that statement. Be open to communicate with the person. If you don't like what they say or do, that's how friendships build