@Her_Sisu
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:56

Who said we want to be independent?!

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And just the feeling went through my soul, guys. And so I was like, go next door. I said, we're going to have to ask the neighbor. I suggested to my son that we ask my neighbor's husband. But then I was like, oh, people are funny about their husbands, and I'm a single woman, blah, blah, blah. And I was like at this point when I felt that blob, I was like, f*** it

#myth #fact

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@FryedOreo
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 3:45
Do you still feel self reliant and in a relationship dynamic, do you feel as though you are more comfortable being codependent rather other than having to go about it on your own? I think that's what you're saying to some degree, but I just want to confirm it's all
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@tjh
Trevor Hammack
@tjh · 3:17

Who Said It? @Her_Sisu

You asked who said it. His name is Neo and he talks about, well, Miss Independent. An independent woman. Men. Now, you have to understand this. Sometimes as men, we can get things very twisted, okay? We can get things extremely twisted. Because when we hear from or see a woman who is smart, intelligent, strong, self reliant, we may interpret that as oh, she don't need no man. She doesn't need us. She's misinformed
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@Enfinit
Enfinit Evolushun
@Enfinit · 4:52
So I felt independent and they had it for a long time. It was like that for a long time. Fluctuating. And I felt like that was my frog. I'm like, man, I want love. I was looking for love and nobody could help me with that in my relationship. So being single now, I feel like I'm giving it to myself and really doing things on my own. And I don't want anybody right now. I don't want to attract mess
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@Her_Sisu
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 2:09

@tjh

Let me tell you, your reply has made my day. This has been a full day at my bridge job. And to get off work to air back in that stupid tire so I can drive home, I'm going to get it looked at tomorrow to have a week where I've been looking forward to being invited out on a date this weekend by a guy I have a crush on and not getting that invite
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@Her_Sisu
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:36

@FryedOreo

Usually, by definitely way, by now, he would have reached out to me to set up our time together for the weekend, and he hasn't. So I'm kind of disappointed because I was looking forward to that also having that time with them to clarify, like, not what are we doing, essentially because I really don't want a traditional relationship, but are you a person that I can call if this were to happen, because I wasn't sure, so that he could clarify
@Her_Sisu
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 3:13

@Enfinit

Are you going to pine over this guy that you have a crush on and be waiting for his back and call? Are you going to stand up for yourself? And when he reaches out, if he reaches out, don't. Or if he could never reach out again, who knows? But what are you going to do about it for yourself in terms of ignoring that and moving on?
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@Swell
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15

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@NickGweezy
Nick G
@NickGweezy · 4:56

@Her_Sisu

I'm 34, in my mid twenty s. I lived with a girl for four years, and we shared an apartment, but she was raised rich, so as much more money as she had than I did, it was still what's mine is mine and what's yours is mine. For some reason, these rich kids do not like to share, even though they got way more than I do
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@Luchianna
Eluchianna Olive
@Luchianna · 4:53
I have a friend who always she loves to throw out that term. I'm independent. But yet you feel you're looking for a relationship. I'm so confused. I'm so confused. I make my own money. I don't need a man for nothing yet and still you seek a man. I'm a little confused by that, but not so much confused. I know people say things that they really don't mean because in my eyes, I am the epitome of an independent woman
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@Her_Sisu
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 2:00

@NickGweezy

That way when people show their true sales because they can only mask for so long, it doesn't matter because you have other people in the bold to just move on to
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@Her_Sisu
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 3:13

@Luchianna

I know I am not ready for a serious relationship right now, but what I am looking for is a consistent emotional connection with one person at this time. I don't know if I mean, I hear that when you're not completely tied to someone, you should have a rotation. I don't honestly know if I have the ability to handle a rotation. I hear that it's better. I just don't know that I have the ability to do that
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@susisouljourney
Susi Lawson
@susisouljourney · 4:33
I don't know anybody that's never been married. I know people divorced and widowed and end up alone, but not never married. So, yeah, I've always relied on myself. Even in the middle of the night, if I want to move something heavy, I learned from my grandmother, like, to move a couch or something, you slip a sheet under it, and you pull the sheet to move the couch to the other room or whatever works well
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