@jblanch
Jared Blanchard
@jblanch · 4:59

Can a married couple outgrow their marriage?

Can they actually go from being good for each other to no longer being the right person for each other? Can that change? Or is that something that other people would look at and be like, no, that's just a cop out. If you feel like that, it's because you're not working very hard on your relationship or you're not trying very hard in your marriage. I'm genuinely curious

Can people be wrong for each other after years of marriage? Is divorce actually a good idea? #growapart #wrongpersonwrongtime

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@HerWayWellness
Robin HerWay
@HerWayWellness · 5:00

Great question!

Hello Jared. This is a great question you posed here. First, I just want to say I'm new here too. So, so bad. We're all trying to figure this thing out, this well out. But I think this is also a really cool app. Anyways. So to answer your question, wait, before I answer your question, just a little background on me. I am married. I've been married for four years
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@HerWayWellness
Robin HerWay
@HerWayWellness · 4:43

I totally forgot the last part

Hey, Megan. So I realized I did not answer your last question. So your last question you stated was, is marriage art? Is divorce a good idea? Is it good to divorce? Is it okay to divorce? So there are a few things in my book that I feel like are for me, like non negotiables when it comes to divorce
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@allowthesun
Chelsea Hanawalt
@allowthesun · 4:03
I don't know why I want to use the word magical, but magical when both people are like, I'm going to do the work for myself and no shame in taking time to be on your own or just have your space, I think is also so important, even in relationships, having your time apart. So that's my two sons, I think this is really important to talk about. And thank you so much and hope you're you have a good day
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@DBPardes
Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 1:26

Sex and intimacy counseling via zoom

And she helps bring that back in a really cool way. Like, she's not some person that does something that's kind of weird and makes you feel like it's out in another atmosphere. That's not your love language. She really works with where people are because sometimes as we grow apart, what's really missing is the fact that we stop being lovers
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@sudha
Sudha Varadarajan
@sudha · 2:13
And are we getting a lot of happiness from those connections? And so I do believe marriage is a welcoming of families. It's not just about two people. And I just wanted to put the start of that
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@Davelee32
David Randolph
@Davelee32 · 4:55

@jblanch

As far as talking to your wife, I don't know if you had a chance to sit down and talk about it. I say get spiritual counseling before making that final decision if that's what you really want, to make it work. And also get counseling from those that are qualified in marriage counseling that went to school, that's certified in marriage counseling, if that's what you want. It's up to you between you and your wife to make the final decision
@mikes1648
Michael Smith
@mikes1648 · 3:26

Sit and know

Hi Jared. I'll see if I can help you with this a little bit. There's a story one time of twelve men who had the task of going out and slaughtering over 600 elephants for their tusks. And they were distraught by this, but they knew they had to do it. So they went to the top of the mountain where they knew that they could speak to this guru up there who had the answers to everything in life
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@kfmarshall2022
Krystle Marshall
@kfmarshall2022 · 5:00
It's okay to remarry, oh, if you don't really love your spouse no more, it's okay to separate yourself from them. No, that's what the world wants. They want us to be able to go and be all caught up in our feelings and not caring about them because we don't know how that can affect the other person or whatever the case might be. I was on a verge of wanting to get divorced
@Adriane
Adriane May
@Adriane · 4:20
But on the other hand, I am someone who completely advocates for being happy and joyful. And that includes your relationships. No, of course every day is not perfect. Of course you're going to disagree on some things or sometimes just have bad days where you're a little bored or whatever with the relationship. But I think that long term though, sometimes you can grow apart. Sometimes you have similar interests in the beginning and you have fun
@teebella353
Tee Bella
@teebella353 · 4:51

#marriage #relationships #fallingoutoflove

My partner and I can't expect him to fulfill my interest when I actually don't have an interest in his. And so I get that fulfilled either from family or friends or he gets his fulfilled through whatever is comfortable to him and we have that understanding, but we have to communicate that. I do think that maybe because you've previously been divorced, it's easy for you to consider it again. So in that aspect, I can understand why you would continue to ask that
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@kfmarshall2022
Krystle Marshall
@kfmarshall2022 · 2:38

@teebella353

You really have to sit down and talk to your spouse about what is going on and how to can get through it if your spouse is willing to talk. Because a lot of times you have spouses, husbands or wives that don't want to talk, they just act like there's nothing wrong and just going about their business. And that leaves a very big hole in Tee situation. So I appreciate your response to the question and thanks you for allowing me to respond back to you
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