@Londonreads
London Reads
@Londonreads · 4:57

Can a man and a women only be friends ?!?

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But before we left, we were still talking. We're talking outside. And I saw him on the corner of my eye talking to this girl that was with us throughout the night. And in my head I'm thinking, like, please don't take my friend away. It's a sense of possessiveness jealousy that I recognized that I had within me. When I saw that, I'm not sure they exchanged numbers. I don't even know what they were talking about

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@Londonreads
London Reads
@Londonreads · 1:02
But really, in reality, you just don't want to be with him for whatever reason. So I already knew that. I already knew that we were just going to be friends, and that's it. But it's still heartbreaking and think, okay, I'm going to joy you as much as I can. I'm going to have fun with you because I know that you know what I mean. I need to hear you guys stories. Thank you so much
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@Her_Sisu
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:32
They went, oh, absolutely not. They're in a relationship or I'm in a relationship or we're just supportive of one another. And then they'll have that person call them. What I want you to do is call your best friend and tell them that you want to get with them. Let them know they can come over or you can come over and it could go down. Nine times out of ten, there's a higher percentage of where that person from the opposite sex answers
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@Enfinit
Enfinit Evolushun
@Enfinit · 3:37
I agree with her sisu, because I've experienced it. And also I'm experienced I've got three friends, three female friends. I don't really get along with guys. And yes, I've made comments about their physique and stuff like that and yes, I did see them in a different light mentally, even for a moment. So yes, we are biologically wired, but one of the things that I fight off is that attraction, that natural instinct
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@Londonreads
London Reads
@Londonreads · 2:53
It'll just be sex. And that's it. I know that for sure, because sex changes things. Sex either changes things for the good or changed it for the bad. But I told him, in our cases, I feel like it would be for the bad. Then I had mentioned that. What did he say to that? He was like, Well, I'm not going to lie to you. You are a woman that I enjoy hanging out with
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@Londonreads
London Reads
@Londonreads · 4:29
And he was like, yeah, I would be lying if I think and visualize how sex would be, I'll be lying. He was being straight up. So I told him. I said, Me too. I thought about it too. But I was like, I don't want us to go there because I know that it will change our friendship. So far right now, me and him is hanging out. We have a good a** time. I enjoy his company
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@Enfinit
Enfinit Evolushun
@Enfinit · 4:58
I'm a person that likes to focus on one woman, and now I have the ability or I've been given the freedom to just date anybody I want while still tied to this piece of paper. It's crazy. I can have my cake and eat it too. But what I want is a romantic relationship with one woman that's focused on me and competes with me love wise. Let's see if we can outdo each other in love
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@Enfinit
Enfinit Evolushun
@Enfinit · 0:12
Oh, and I'm a Taurus, by the way. A healthy tourist, not one of those toxic ones. I'm I'm 47 and I'm mature. Well, somewhat mature
@Londonreads
London Reads
@Londonreads · 2:56

@Enfinit

This dude would drop his plans just to hang out with me, and he has told me that he has done it, and right when he told me what he did, I was like, okay, he really likes my company. So now that I'm noticing that I'm being possessive, I guess you can say I'm catching villains
@Enfinit
Enfinit Evolushun
@Enfinit · 1:52
I can sleep at night knowing that I was true to myself and true to my emotions and true to my flow. It's all about flow. Especially you being spiritual. We have to have flow. So, woman, you better let that flow. Let that relationship flow and let your feminine energy shine. You guys have a lot more control in relationships than you think you do. You're biting by him. But I think that you hold the power
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@Enfinit
Enfinit Evolushun
@Enfinit · 0:07
Oh, and she s a water sign. She is a cancer. June cancer. Ill
@Londonreads
London Reads
@Londonreads · 3:24

@Enfinit

I would die laughing over here. This conversation went I don't want to say laugh cause they went in a way where it's becoming more humorous now. But no, when I'm set in stone with especially in the sexual aspect when feel like it's going to shift and it's going to ruin, I don't go there. I really don't go there because I had a bad experience with a friend that I was cool with for ten plus years
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@Londonreads
London Reads
@Londonreads · 3:51

@Enfinit

I don't want to get too heavy into that conversation right now, but the interesting part about me and my girlfriend is that we've actually been in the same building. We worked under the same roof for years, but never even spoken to each other, which is weird. We actually realized that a couple of days ago. This dude was literally like this picture, and I realized he's, like, behind me. This work picture that we took. He's behind me
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@zejacques
Jack .
@zejacques · 4:21

Yes they certainly can! Just respect the thin line https://s.swell.life/STHvEb5ITgagIet @Londonreads @Her_Sisu @Enfinit

And it was something that I really craved, like in my teenage years and early twenty s I actually wanted, whether I knew it or not, I wanted non romantic, nonsexual relationships with women because it's beautiful and it's a friendship and I don't want to be restricted to male friendships. I think Infant said he prefers to hang out with women, so then there again is evidence that he can do it
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@Her_Sisu
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:39

@zejacques

And we've explored one another before, but I've just been like, oh yeah, that's my friend. Those men I have been in a serious relationship with have said, hands down, yeah, limit that interaction with that person while we're together
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@zejacques
Jack .
@zejacques · 4:07

@Her_Sisu i am ready to help when humanity needs it 🤣

And you're agreeing with me that they can, but I totally agree with you around the biological nature of humans and that attraction that is there and that initial scanning, like you said, the pheromones and looking for the ideal maiden, even if we don't want to acknowledge it or even if we don't think it or understand the science, it's their facts 100%. But I really appreciate you sharing your experiences in London Reed asks, I'll share too
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@Luchianna
Eluchianna Olive
@Luchianna · 4:51
So, yeah, there are people that I had in my life that maybe we came close, but again, just not willing to jeopardize ruin the friendship and our love for each other is everlasting. I mean, I can call those friends up now, and that's what I need. Some of the relationships I had. No, but that's because of things that just happened. But men and women can be friends. They can absolutely be friends. You just have to respect the boundaries
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@Enfinit
Enfinit Evolushun
@Enfinit · 1:24

@zejacques

It's kind of weird that when you said the heterosexual homosexual relationship between a gay man and hetero woman, and there's no attraction there. But I have a couple of gay men that are my friends, and they always come on to me. Always. And I just had to mention that because I'm not homophobic at all. But for them to come on to me, I'm like, Dude, I'm totally straight
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@NickGweezy
Nick G
@NickGweezy · 4:58
She wasn't, like, sleeping with these guys. She was like, I guess, going out for free meals and trying to see what she could maximize out in the city while having me as olive, some backup guy best friend. And that's why I bring this up, because this really turned me off from having platonic friends of the opposite gender. It's just didn't work. I don't know why
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@NickGweezy
Nick G
@NickGweezy · 5:00
It just ended up being this waste of time if I was seeking out a girlfriend, but using kind of expending my emotions and my energy in this person where it was never going to go anywhere. I mean, you might as well spin your tires. You might as well blow your engine in neutral. It just doesn't work. I really don't think it works. And again, one of those people is a backup for the other person. And there's always some attraction that ends up happening
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@Luchianna
Eluchianna Olive
@Luchianna · 4:45

@NickGweezy

If you say, oh, I'm not attracted to you that way, right, because you're supposed to be friends. They hook you up with one of their girlfriends so they can know the inside, the ins and the out. It's unfair. And that's not truly a friend. But a lot of women do that. A lot of insecure women do that
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@NickGweezy
Nick G
@NickGweezy · 4:57

#dating #relationships

And to be blunt, it sucked hanging out with somebody so f****** hot because it jinxed me. And she had no problems because again, men are just so disrespectful that it's like, oh, f*** this guy. I'm going to take his girl. Not knowing that's not my girl. Definitely not my girl. And same thing with the tall chick. Her name was Melissa. Still is
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@NickGweezy
Nick G
@NickGweezy · 4:56
And again, I this I had trouble talking about this before, but I I guess, you know, I've come to terms with it more. Not to get too serious, but, like, with the Roe v. Wade thing recently, this girl Julia that I told you that was basically with every other guy in Connecticut within a ten year age span of us, this girl got a lot of abortions and kind of treated it like a joke
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@Luchianna
Eluchianna Olive
@Luchianna · 4:54

@NickGweezy

So men and women, even in that relationship, there's boundaries, and she was willing to cross them. And sometimes we regret cutting them off when we should because of some loyalty that we may feel. But clearly she was defending at a different stage in her life where your friendship couldn't save her. I'm not giving advice that I never do. It's just my opinion. But yeah. Wow. Comes to fire
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@Professor42
Professor Z
@Professor42 · 4:56

@Londonreads It's possible, very possible. You have to experience a friednship gone south to understand it.

After that happened, I've decided that female friends are just female friends. I also have a lot of female friends who at one time I might have been attracted to or was attracted to. But after you spend so long with somebody, you don't really look at them as they're attractive anymore. I know that sounds cliche, like that whole I think of you as a brother thing. Olive yeah. To a point, that does happen
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@NickGweezy
Nick G
@NickGweezy · 4:59

@Luchianna

It would be like I would be at her place and she's complaining about the last guy we would make out sometimes. One time I stayed over and she comes into her bedroom with no clothes on and I'm just like, oh, my God. It's just like none of these scenarios as, quote, unquote, tempting as this was or whatever, knowing what she does and how she is, I was like, I can't do this with this person
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@NickGweezy
Nick G
@NickGweezy · 2:50
So maybe her and I were both looking for love in the wrong places and she was finding it all the d*** time. And I was just like, not really willing to just be with anybody just for the sake of being with anybody. And I think that was her problem, is that she'll just pretty much do anything with anybody within means and yeah, it just was never going to happen
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@Londonreads
London Reads
@Londonreads · 4:25

@Professor42

It's very hard to maintain just a friendship with a guy. Well, I guess I can't speak for every woman, but with me, it is the guy friends that I have or that I have gained, they found me sexually attractive. You know what I mean? So I have like, maybe seven girlfriends. Every last of them find me sexy, attractive. Half of them has admitted to that. None of them has gotten any part of me, period. Not even a kiss
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