Six Recognize that your feelings are valid, but feelings aren't always fat, right? Emotions come and go without warning, and it can be easy to jump to a negative conclusion. Practice giving your relationship the benefit of the doubt and refrain your negative thoughts in a more positive light. Instead of saying, I always push people away and nobody loves me, say I attract love and people are drawn to my warmth and energy. Also, express appreciation to the support of people in your life