Or you go away and you don't explain where you're going, what you're doing, when you're going to be back, et cetera. So this might look like the man gets angry or the woman gets so angry, leaves the argument, gets in their car and just drives away and the person left behind has no idea where they're going or when they're going to be back. That would be bad
Laura Monk
@ThriveLauraMonk · 4:06
Because that's not a loving relationship. And another reason why we don't want to leave an argument or a discussion and then pretend it never happened or leave and then come back and not mention it again or not bring it up is because that's considered a failed repair attempt. And you don't want to have too many or several or a lot of failed repair attempts because that leads to the degradation and the destruction of the relationship eventually if you keep doing that
Laura Monk
@ThriveLauraMonk · 1:59
It's very, very important that we don't say to someone that we promise we'll come back to the discussion and then we just don't bring it up again, or we don't mention it, or we don't come back to it. Super important that we actually keep that promise because we have to create trust in the relationship. Trust is one of the four pillars of a relationship. You can listen to my podcast. The four pillars of a relationship. Trust being one of them