It's always about them and their needs first. Next. They are sensitive and defensive. You feel like you are, quote unquote walking on eggshells around them. Next. They want all the attention to be on them or about them. Next. They don't respect the differences in their children. Next. They pit their children against each other. They will compare their children to one another. They may say things like why can't you be more like so and so?