I highly recommend it for all couples because it really shows you the best and most important ways that we can speak to our partners to move towards reconciliation and repair and away from arguing and the degradation of the relationship. So here we go. Trying to get away from defensiveness. You can say, I'm feeling defensive. Can you please rephrase that the next one. I'm feeling scared by that remark. Could you please say that more gently? Moving on, I need to calm down