They have a very difficult time changing or even admitting there needs to be a change. Being arrogant and putting others down to boast their own self worth thinking might means right. Never seeing the good in others and always focusing on the bad or the negatives. Refusing to communicate and stonewalling. Being jealous, manipulative, and controlling. Having a deep seated insecurity within themselves and having unrealistic goals and expectations. And the last one they will give reactive abuse