And unfortunately, that's the one that most people get stuck in, staying in the toxic relationship, continuing the bad habits and patterns. Because remember, if nothing changes, nothing changes. And just continuing to fight and argue and fight and argue and get no resolution, failed repair attempt after failed repair attempt over and over again. Continuing to just battle in this relationship is unfortunately an option many people take
Masha Rooh
@Ba-Dastoor · 4:59
When the love is getting pushed towards obsession, we understand that there is a red flag we must highlight in any square of our life. If we tend to optimize it at the right time, then we can save our relationship and love. And again, of course the three way out that you mentioned becomes a part of it. And I believe one is being followed and tried after the other
Heidi Crowther
@nicoboy45 · 1:06
That's the best choice because at the end of the day, you feel like you've won. It's not a competition, but it's very helpful to know that if you take the high road, you always end up to being the better person and hoping to be an example for somebody else who may be going through the same issue. Thank you so much again, and I look forward to more of your posts
CHAE ON FIRE
@revolution4chae · 5:00
Even if you stay and even if you're trying to have children for him, he will always be the same type of abusive individual. We're living in times where women are empowered to have their own voice, to signify their lives with better alternatives rather than to stay in a relationship that at the end of the day take him to the death not only emotionally and spiritually, but also physically
Laura Monk
@ThriveLauraMonk · 4:58
So yes, you can leave physically and just get out of a relationship, let's say with a boyfriend or girlfriend, and just say, I'm done, I'm leaving, I'm moving on. Good luck to you. But with family members, you can leave them and cut them off completely. And if you feel like you can't, then you can just simply not talk to them as much you can at a Christmas event or Thanksgiving
And I was able to have compassion for them, and I was able to forgive them, but have this boundary of like, okay, even though I have compassion for you and all these things now, that doesn't mean that you are worthy of being in my life again. Right? So I think with number three, yes, you can have this higher perspective and understanding of people, but with teaching them how to treat you also is like having a healthy boundary
Laura Monk
@ThriveLauraMonk · 4:25
And for me, like many people, I'm sure that with my past abusers, including my father, I did get to a point where I understood why they were the way they were. It came from their abusive past, their dysfunctional childhoods, and I had a level of, like you said, understanding and compassion for them. However, that did not mean that I still wanted to keep them around in my life