I think they just want to control us and that is not friendship and I think that is a very important boundary that you need to understand that that person is their own person and you are your own person and you need to meet at a certain point to be friends. You can't just put them into your circle or you can just go into theirs
Simran Sehrawat
@simrannnn · 0:24
Hi, Tancy. I hope you're doing great. I think you are right. Relationship boundaries, of course. Friendship, maybe. Or boundaries. Blur ball bow dating, especially friendship. We are are like, oh, we are close and they comment on us comment on our relationship with someone else, and that is not okay. So totally, you're right
Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 2:28
But another person is like that person I just really love to read quietly with or that person I really love to talk about my heart with. I think it's really contextual. And as you get older, you get to experience so many different kinds of relationships that have limitations. Only if you name that, as is, as I mentioned before, I think it's just about knowing the nature of that relationship. And then inside that there's freedom and there's love and there's flow
Tanishka Singh
@Tancy_0818 · 0:37
Hey there, Simon. Thank you so much for applying and sharing your views on how we talk about boundaries and relationships like friendship. And, you know, am glad that you have a certain opinion on this because sometimes we don't really have an idea about this. Sometimes people are just like, oh, yeah, does that happen really in terms of friendship? Sometimes. And people are clueless. Anyway, thanks again for replying to me as well. I really appreciate it
Tanishka Singh
@Tancy_0818 · 1:42
Hey there, Deborah. Thank you so much for replying to me as well and giving your views on it. Yeah, I completely agree with all the points that you made. That how, you know, this is, you know, like power boundaries that we set are kind of a mutual realization and a mutual decision made by the friends. And that's how you kind of set boundaries. There needs to be communication
Gauri Agarwal
@gauriAgarwal27 · 1:07
And whatsoever your friends or doing the square or making a friend because what what what what what what what what what is true friendship and are expect that he or she would do the same. In the mantra was approving
Tanishka Singh
@Tancy_0818 · 0:24
Hey there gory. Thanks for replying to Mazel and thanks for sharing your opinion and how you do agree that there needs to be certain boundaries and I, you know, it's great you have a certain set of opinions on this. So thank you very much again for replying to me
Hey, thank you so much for posting this. It was really great listening to you. And you know what I think is, yeah, there should be boundaries. I mean, you need to set boundaries in all relationships, friendship included. I will give my reasons and that the incident happened with you
Tanishka Singh
@Tancy_0818 · 0:49
Thank you so much for replying and sharing your experiences with your friends and how they are felt and for adding on points like Privacy and you know, and how much dependence you need to have on your friends. They are very such good points, which are also very, completely, very important because if you become very dependent on your friends and if you don't give them their Privacy and all, that friendship would really won't work properly and that would just hurt you as well
Tanjot Singh
@whothetansin · 4:32
With every second you talk, with every moment you pass, you guys are learning each other. You guys are growing together. You guys are just living the best of the present together. You are creating nostalgia, you are creating memories and you are definitely thinking for the future what will happen. So friendship is something that involves past, present and future. That's my personal perspective and my personal life and my own friends
Hi. It's a very great topic. I think friendship is really one thing that we get from this world without any conditions. You know, it's just happened like, want to say, like family or other family, relationships, partner, love, each and all are like. There are so many conditions. There are so many set of rules. There is something which is related to ritual, sculpture and all stuff, but flagship, which is more freedom is there
Akshita
@Akshita07 · 1:11
Hello, I hope you are doing great. So when it comes to friendship, although you may think they can sustain themselves naturally, there are still boundaries that apply. At least there should be. Just like the with any relationship. Boundaries in friendship help both people keep their relationship healthy and intact. Once it feels of balance to either person, it may unravel. Boundary Setting It is massively important in relationships
But then again we grow and sometimes from all these people we need to grow apart. Actually it's no one's fault. It's not your fault. It's not your fault. Things are becoming shaky and uncontrollable and unstoppable and all just become chaotic. Like I said, all the years you've been with them and all the memories are just trash along the way at the end of the road. But it's really not that way of thinking that we need to
Tanishka Singh
@Tancy_0818 · 2:36
The trust comes from just having that friendship that we do, that relation that we have committed to. From there, the trust comes. And yeah, it was really beautiful. And thank you so much for replying and sharing your ideas and opinions because they were very good. So thanks again for replying. And I'm glad that I did share this with you and you were able to reply to it and it was something a little different from what you usually do. That sounds great
Tanishka Singh
@Tancy_0818 · 1:39
Hey there. Thank you so much for replying and I, you know, completely agree that friendship is something very beautiful and completely different from the other relationships. Just like you said, like there are some spiritual and some cultural and some societal conditions that are applied in those other relationships. Whereas in friendship it's something we create ourselves. That's something we just end up creating ourselves and there's no outer interference in that
Tanishka Singh
@Tancy_0818 · 1:43
Because in a way, if we keep a boundary there and if both of us are able to maintain it, that means we have this strong trust, we have the strong connection which helps us to contain those boundaries that we both need and that we both want and need. And if the other friend is able to help you with that, that's very great. And you'll feel so much more comfortable with that person and that which kind of can help us to lower the boundaries as well
Tanishka Singh
@Tancy_0818 · 4:04
We do have a choice to go away. We do have that choice and I think the other person should respect that as well. That I do need a good friend. I do need someone who is able to maintain a friendship and not someone who is unable to maintain a friendship. And those people who are unable to maintain a friendship, I think they also need to have that self love journey. I think I did get myself love journey after hardship after someone didn't give me what I deserve
Shambhavi Mishra
@Sam_here · 3:10
Once you just understand it. Suppose if I say that we are very close to each other, there's no boundary between us. That means that you can be comfortable with me. You can be Frank to me, you can share things with me. But that doesn't mean that you can go to any extent. Because I do have emotions. I do have feelings. So, yeah, boundaries are there, but they're not needed to be mentioned. Right. You just need to understood them
Shruti Singh
@Shruti_Singh · 2:16
You don't actually have to care about what they think because they love you a lot and will never judge you. So depending on these stages, I guess the bond and the gesture of the friendship depends. While talking about those boundaries, I guess boundaries are necessary. It's not just in the friendship. I guess no matter what relation we share with someone, being with family, colleagues, friends, or whatever it is we require, boundary and boundaries are always essential
Tanishka Singh
@Tancy_0818 · 3:13
There are certain things that as friends, you need to know that where is the limit and where you can't cross that line, you can't cross that line that's way too much. You can't go too much into their life. They have a circle and you can be in that circle, but not too deep into it unless they allow you. But you need to stay back unless they pull you themselves. You need to have that understanding. Both the sense they need to have that understand
And I guess the friendship can be same if the friendship is already matured enough to understand that when that happens, you need a time and space for yourself. Maybe that's also one of the reasons why friendship breaks sometimes because one way or another, the friendship that seems to be freeing at first is already asking for too much, too much that it doesn't have limits. Two friendship begins when both parties understand and respect each other's Privacy and personal space
Tanishka Singh
@Tancy_0818 · 1:53
You're just letting them go, you're letting them see and you're letting also yourself see something you're not happy with. I know the things you said very beautiful. It really made me feel happy. And thank you so much for that reply. I hope I get more replies from you. I really really loved your reply. I just hope to get more advice from you if you are free. Definitely do check this out whenever you can. That was really great. Thank you so much
Tanishka Singh
@Tancy_0818 · 1:50
I just wanted to ask like people saying these kind of boundaries apply to just friendships because sometimes people forget that. Yeah. So thank you so much for replying. I hope to hear from you again on my next level. I am thinking of some good ideas, I think and I hope you like them and you reply and you share your views because I love hearing from everyone and your views and how you agree with the point of the boundaries and how you share your point of view on the friendships
punitha B R
@Pooh · 0:27
Hi Tanishka So according to me, through friendship is something that has to be very pure and realistic is not faking it all the time. Like seriously, do you know true friendship is something that has to be natural and not out basically for the sake of it
Tanishka Singh
@Tancy_0818 · 0:49
And yeah, thank you so much again for replying. I'm glad you have an opinion on this and you think is out of way. And yeah, it's good to hear from you. So thank you so much for replying. And I'm sorry you're being stuck so much. I'm kind of sleepy right at the moment. So thank you so much. Bye
That's like they don't even know you. They don't even know your comfort zone. And they're walking into your personal space, which I don't think is a true friend does. I mean, a true friend is always there, always around. Whenever you need them. You look back there
Anshi Sharma
@xoxo_2004 · 1:20
And that's when I realized that these people who actually do these things are not that good of a friend, to be honest. And this is a really good topic that she took because not a lot of people talk about it. And it's we should just because your friend does not mean you have the right to do everything, you know
Tanishka Singh
@Tancy_0818 · 2:07
They don't try to force you into anything or try to get into your life too much. But, yeah, when a friend gets toxic, you kind of forget that gets out of your head. You raise that boundary, you let that boundary go because you feel like that person is not okay. You need to help them instead of confronting them. You end up just getting into this whole web of toxicity with them, and it keeps on going on
Tanishka Singh
@Tancy_0818 · 3:30
Even if a friend is doing that, you need to differentiate the good and the bad. You need to get out the toxicity from your life. You should just confirm those people, which we sometimes don't do because they are our friends. And that's what the point of trying to kind of make, no matter what, talk to that person, confront them and just keep the toxicity out of your life because otherwise you just keep on sinking into it and it will hurt you as well