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I mean, obviously oversimplifying a lot of these things, and I haven't thought all this all the way through, but once you get to know somebody deeply and you share your most vulnerable self and the other person shares their most vulnerable self, that vulnerability deepens, and the risk increases for pain and hurt and suffering. But that familiarity is often the one thing that drives people opposite directions, too, right?
And then you think about life experiences and then you think about how things are placed differently in our brains, let alone a neurotypical versus a neurodivergent brain and kline all of these different facets and then the organic and fluidity of language and it's like how in the world do we ever get here, right?
Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 0:42
But when things work out and people find that vibe, it's like music, and it is magic and it's to be celebrated. And I hear it every day on this platform. I just heard it now, actually, which is really very meta. Thank you
Lara Kline
@Vocalizah · 4:45
And I'm absolutely fascinated by that all the time and I think about it constantly and it's so interesting and when you're like and there's so many different bits of interpretation and when you said how strange it is that some people really think that we can reduce Kline, you said reduce communication to simple steps or something like that, you said it really well. I think about art like that all the time
Lara Kline
@Vocalizah · 0:52
So maybe that in itself is part of life's fun, trying to navigate the chaos, everything. But anyway, thanks so much for your input. I look forward to more conversations like this. Absolutely
I feel like you can get bored, but there's plenty of people who stay together for 60, 70 years who have done it all together and only with that person there's a uniqueness there's plenty of people who have been together for 40 years who have been divorced prior. So it's like there is a lot of interesting avenues, but it comes to self perseverance and what you value as your own individual and where you are as your own individual
Lara Kline
@Vocalizah · 0:57
Yeah, thank you for that. What a way to wrap it up to people who are not willing to put the time into themselves or what did you say? Wow, that was 3 seconds ago and I can't even remember. If you're not willing to put the work into yourself, you're not willing to put the work into the relationships. And that is so true. I mean, it's kind of like you can't understand something if you've never experienced it
Maybe I'll try that again or whatever it is, but it's this back and forth that allows us to get closer to that similar enough understanding, right? And we'll never get it exactly, but it's almost a dance, almost a bit of art in itself, in that we can do our very best at how we do the flourish of the paintbrush or move this way or that way in the dance, but really it's this collaboration that is and can be really beautiful
And I also really appreciated your comments about if you don't do the work, you're coming to the table empty handed. And it's a little funny, we could say, to expect to have a particular outcome of whatever the inter action is if we're coming to the table empty handed. And I just want to say I appreciate your comments. Thank you
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
I just think differently and when communicating in my actions, how we use my hands when I talk or if I'm disconnected, it's kind of like it gets misconstrued where the other person thinks I don't care or whatever the situation is, well, that's where it becomes challenging. Like if you're married or if you're in a relationship because the man and woman I was actually talking to my coworker about this a couple of weeks ago about this book somewhere in Here by Doctor Agar
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