Eluchianna Olive
@Luchianna · 4:45
Infidelity Damage to the Soul
And I think that's what happens to I can't speak for all women, but for some women, especially me, it's that trust. You have to go through a whole lot to cover up something. And you didn't love me or respect me enough to tell me the truth. You gave me no choice. You took away my choices. And that's where I have an issue with right now. I have to deal with all the ramification of your indecent exposure or your act
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:41
And how can they just come out and say, this is what it is. This is how we lead our lifestyle, and please let us deal with this in peace? On how I didn't manage the dynamics well with this other person in our ethically non monogamous relationship, I am going to have to, in fact, do a part, too
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:51
Men have a desire to be with other women just like sometimes women have a desire to be with other men for a variety of reasons. We are layered people and it's not realistic to think that one person can meet all of those layers. It's just not realistically possible. And if you dig really deep, monogamy is fairly new. Actually, even the concept of marrying for love is fairly new if you really do the literature review on it
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 4:27
But yeah, it's unfortunate, especially to the lady, whoever he did this with, because now she's in a public eye, even though if she could have been a compliant participant, heads will roll now. So, yeah, it's unfortunate. And I have been cheated on before and for me it just seems like such wasted energy when you simply could say that you just aren't interested. But for some people. There's no fun in that
Eluchianna Olive
@Luchianna · 3:56
Because, again, the word infidelity adultery, when you say in the nose, in that matters, heart, resonates. It hit home. It's kind of like cheating. I could forgive him for an indiscretion or two or maybe three. But when you say your father committed adultery with another woman, it's kind of like, whoa. Oh, that's some adult stuff. We need to deal with it
Paul OMahony
@omaniblog · 3:07
Work with friends, whatever, and I meet somebody and I have a let's just say I have a big sexual rock with them. Very enjoyable. And that's it. Say goodbye and go back home. Now, is it infidelity if I keep quiet about it privately? Very happy that that was very enjoyable. I'm in a good mood, but I have no intention of abandoning the existing relationship I have with my wife. I just had a good time
Nick G
@NickGweezy · 4:57
And I almost feel like before Facebook and the grass is Greener idea that marriage was this institution where you displayed undying fidelity and you kept those vows and everything. But the more I observed my father over the years, the more I saw that he was just using these as well, do as I say, not as I do, and do what society would want us to do and whatever
Nick G
@NickGweezy · 4:54
That stuff kind of weirded me out. I wanted a girlfriend. I wanted to hold hands and things about somebody I could get married and have kids with and have that traditional thing with
Nick G
@NickGweezy · 4:58
And it just turned into this thing where I believe this girl that she said she loved me. And I kept looking for that, but it broke me. For the longest time, I just thought every girl was going to be like this. And I was like, oh, my God. I don't want to be with anybody. I don't want to be intimate with anybody if they're all just going to lie to me and just say that they want to have this relationship
Nick G
@NickGweezy · 4:58
Well, this guy is nice, and he might be everything that I want, but f*** this right now, because I have to marry some f****** billionaire lawyer that's going to date me, a 23 year old girl from Wisconsin with a degree in psychology because I'm so special type of thing
Eluchianna Olive
@Luchianna · 4:52
Sometimes I bring up analogies that make no sense. But like I said, I appreciate it. And if more people would have these so called social media entertainment sites where they're talking about things, if people can get to that, where you are, I think, would open people understanding and allow people to deal with the real drama, trauma, toxic behavior or way they see things monogamy. It's not for everybody. It's just not
Eluchianna Olive
@Luchianna · 4:44
I'm not saying I'm doing it with multiple people. I'm just telling you straight up, there's going to be a time where you're just not going to be it for me. And can you handle that? So don't phone calls, don't inquire when people come up to you and they say things. Don't ask questions you already know the answer to. I would never throw it into your face
Nick G
@NickGweezy · 5:00
I think some of them are very almost diabolical in that way where you read about, oh, I share all my secrets with him, and then four months later, this guy is literally posting this girl's dirt on Instagram like it's some joke. And people spilling each other's secrets to one another. And there comes a point where even with your significant other, you have to understand controlling information and realizing, look, you can't tell everybody everything
Nick G
@NickGweezy · 5:00
Now, I get the motivation behind that, and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that, because, again, nine out of ten times, somebody is playing somebody else, and again, they're just looking to hook up or whatever. And so I'm always the type, yeah, let's go out and, you know, two dates if you want, two or three dates, and see if this works before we think about anything
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:47
They made that choice to maintain that level of appreciation and respect for one another and to honor one another from choice, not obligation, and to do it their way. And I thought that is the most beautiful conversation one could have with someone that they love and a choice to make. And I remember thinking in my early twentys when I read this article, I want that. I want to choose to be with someone and I want them to choose me back
Nick G
@NickGweezy · 4:59
And I saw parallels because I dated this girl four years ago, and everything out of my mouth, she says I'm wrong. And then a couple of weeks ago, I got in trouble on stage in West Hartford because they were saying that I was saying, I guess, chauvinistic things
