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Yes. I have a better relationship with him than I have with with my mom. It was difficult. I didn't know. And so when you know what happened? When he got to 19, he was being horrible. He was only working two nights a week. He wasn't studying, he was lazy, he was negative, he was treating me badly. And he was still living outside. Yeah. So I left him. I created the situation for him
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:44
And I was just like, I would have never been able to touch my parents in this way. It just would have not gone well. And I'm so glad that we have that just a different relationship. And even though he like you described with your son, they're there are moments that you're like, I'm not sure. I'm just not sure
Georgie Dee
@GeorgieDee · 2:07
Yeah, we had a very bonded, close relationship because I was the primary carer his whole life, so, yeah, very close. And breaking cycles is a really important job for some people in families. Right. But how good that your mother is coming to the party in some ways that she's adjusting, it's good that she's still got that plasticity of mine. So well done, you on keeping that conversation and that relationship going
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Aayan B
@aayanisms · 4:57
Thanks for sharing the swell. It's quite complex, as is parenting. For me, parenting is a bundle of contradictions and there isn't a pattern to it whatsoever. Give you an example. We often find parents chiding their children to stay quiet when they're making noise and creating all the ruckus and they keep shouting themselves while asking the child to be quiet. That's a paradox there
Georgie Dee
@GeorgieDee · 4:05
So I think it's bigger than just what parents use at home. I remember my son going through stages where I thought, that's not how I raised him, but it was the dominant culture of his Pea group at school. I mean, my son, luckily, had quite a free range childhood where he got to play outside with other kids and experience the world and figure out how to negotiate strangers and traffic from a young age
Aayan B
@aayanisms · 4:50
And the freedom that children get is also restricted as compared to, say, the Western counterparts, for example. There is accountability. The neighborhood auntie or uncle can still come and chat you and call you like what you're doing. It's more out of an affection rather than infringement of privacy or stuff like that. Sorry about the background noise. I'm on the road. And so these kinds of things are both good and bad and therefore hence complex. So that would be my two cent
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