@LadyO
Ophelia Johnson
@LadyO · 4:54

Children & Trauma: Be careful with your words!

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We are their parents. We are their role models. I was on vacation in Turkey, actually, and I'm standing there, and this isn't just for parents. This is just for people in general. In general, what I found was so disturbing. There was a little girl, and we were going through immigration, and you have to show your passport. And they stand there and they take a picture. So just imagine this little beautiful girl. She was a little plump

#childhoodtrauma #watchyourmouth #wordshurt #childrenareourfuture

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@LadyO
Ophelia Johnson
@LadyO · 4:28

Be kind

And it's not until you are aware of it can you fix it. So let's not start a generation of children who are belittled, bewildered, whatever else would you guys can think of, because my brain just stopped a moment ago. But let's just try to raise really strong, independent and selfaware children who can tackle the world and its problems. Because we have a world of hurt and pain coming towards those people
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@DBPardes
Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 2:08

Tagging @Shanee1219

Let's talk about this from the perspective of institutional learning, how we're dealing with this at the level where it's taught and then at the societal level that you speak of so beautifully. Like, let's just be each other's keepers. Let's not let this happen in our micro world. Forget the big world. It's so overwhelming. It makes me so scared
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@corinneisabella
corinne isabella
@corinneisabella · 5:00
And then that just makes her a better mom, because she'll know, like, if Trey wants her attention when she's trying to have a quiet time, she might have a different reaction to him. So it's really different. When I'm the mom that actually caused trauma to my daughter, when I thought I was the mom that was breaking the cycle of that trauma, I'm
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@corinneisabella
corinne isabella
@corinneisabella · 1:16
And yeah. You're such a great mom. Look at your kids. Look what you're doing. Amazing. What an amazing woman you are. And just happy Friday. I just got myself a pizza for dinner. We actually have this little place, I'm on the base. And my husband just ordered me a pizza. And I'm so excited, I'm spicing it up, I'm putting some of my love into it, and it's going to be fabulous. Happy Friday
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@kfmarshall2022
Krystle Marshall
@kfmarshall2022 · 3:50
And I told him, I said, I don't ever feel like you have to be uncomfortable talking to me about anything. And that's one of the things I want my kids to understand. They need to come to me for anything. I will not look down on them. I would not curse them. I would not drag their name in the mud. I will try to be there for them as much as possible because I'm the only parent they have
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@LadyO
Ophelia Johnson
@LadyO · 4:22

@kfmarshall2022

So to my point, it's just we need to be careful with our words and how we talk to our kids, because we just don't need them to be so traumatized in their life. And sometimes stuff can happen, and you don't mean anything by it, but they still be hurt by it. So I don't think there's a win win here. It's a double edged sword, and you do the best you can
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@LadyO
Ophelia Johnson
@LadyO · 3:29

@corinneisabella

I don't know if I'm getting it wrong, but I'm doing the best that I can. And I make it a point to say that to them because I don't ever want them to think that as their mother, I know everything. And they have to listen to me because I know everything. No, I don't know anything, but I have no idea what I'm doing
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@corinneisabella
corinne isabella
@corinneisabella · 5:00

@LadyO

I mean, I don't know. Like you said, they don't come with manuals. And it destroys my heart to think that I made her feel a certain way. And to this minute, we still have our little challenging conversations and whatnot, and we all go through our hormonal mood swings and whatnot, but at the end of the day, we're all on the same page, and we're all adulting together at a different level, of course, I'm Mom and Coco Detre
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@wilshine729
will guzman
@wilshine729 · 2:16

@LadyO

So maybe if you participate with him I'm not saying you don't, but you can also let's go play basketball, maybe get two bikes together and go cycling. What if he picks up the joy for cycling and he'll lose weight within a year of basketball? I'm sure you try these things. I'm not saying you have it, but maybe if you're there with them, you know what I'm saying? Hey, let's go for a jog. Let's go
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@LadyO
Ophelia Johnson
@LadyO · 4:24

@wilshine729 Thank you

We're all walking around wounded from our childhood, and I'm trying to give them the best guidance that I can to help them so that way they can succeed and excel. It's really hard being a single mom. You're trying to do everything you can to protect your kids, so it's quite difficult. But I appreciate your response, and thank you. I look forward to hearing and some other things from you
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will guzman
@wilshine729 · 3:42

Reaching out

I don't know if you know anyone in that section, but it will be great to make some new connections and let people see my art in different places. Especially out there where people say whole other energy. I feel like my art would be like more in Europe, a little bit more the state. There's a lot of abstract expressionists and a lot of that. I don't know if you're into art at all. Sorry if I'm blabbing
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