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Swell Spotlight: Dayle Brenner Wild, LCSW-R

After you're done with that, please answer other first question, which is, can you drop us into the pandemic during its earliest weeks in New York City and how you were personally, let us know how you were and then please let us know how your patience were and how that really started to unfold for you. And thanks again. And we look forward to this conversation unfolding. Thanks

Mental Health during the Pandemic #covid #health #therapy #help #community. #swellinterview

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Dayle Brenner
@DBWLCSWR · 5:00
And truly, the only way that I could participate in making any kind of a difference on a micro or macro level was to cultivate whenever necessary, whenever not necessary, in order to be able to participate on an active level, to create the kind of antidote that the noise required as far as my client community. And I call the people who come to me, my clients because we collaborate and I'm not a doctor. So they're not my patients
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Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 1:15

What steps can a person take to focus in on self vs global pain?

I am so glad that you brought up this very specific thing about recognizing the ocean of pain in the world and yet still getting on your island and taking care of your pain. I truly believe that when you care for yourself then and only then can you care for others
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Dayle Brenner
@DBWLCSWR · 5:00
And that being said, there are so many nuances and so many important parts to your question, and in terms of self love and empathy, and being able to gracefully negotiate responses that one has no experience with while attempting to not let really important things fall through the cracks while doing so. I think that there are so many moving parts and variables that are unique to each individual
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Arish Ali
@arish · 1:35

Advice for people to adjust once they begin socializing again

We were starting to emerge out of it faced kind of unwinding of the quarantine, if you will, but we are now rolling back the opening because of the cases rising again. But hopefully things will at some point start opening up even after this falls, maybe a few weeks further out. And the question for you is when that happens, what's your advice to people as they kind of re acclimatize and they start to socialize again?
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Dayle Brenner
@DBWLCSWR · 5:00
I remember how to do this or this feels good. I'm enjoying this. The other thing about that, your question raised for me and you didn't really ask this is something I find kind of interesting to look at in terms of you used the term socializing, but I'm wondering if you're also referring to dating. And I was thinking about how people vet prospective romantic Pardes these days and how difficult that is in general, but online due to people falsely representing themselves catfishing
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Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 2:56

#trust #socializing #dating what’s the same way to move forward. Baby steps

So if we don't trust people and their integrity around being safe and being honest, how do we move forward? We can pull a page from the age crisis when men were dating each other and they weren't sure if the person was tested or not. They went through incredible trauma around that. And I think this is not dissimilar that we have to weigh in on what precedents have been set. How do we set those dynamics up?
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Dayle Brenner
@DBWLCSWR · 2:58
And in terms of trusting strangers, which are where people are when we start dating them or befriending them, I think it comes down to intuition to a certain degree and some really careful questioning. I love that you brought the age crisis into it as well, Deborah. And the age crisis contributed to people needing to have careful conversations about safe sex
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Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 2:46

How do we handle the macro shitshow vs kitchen table crisis? #covid #help

And of course, we're batting at each other because it's an unconscionable situation we're in. But I wanted to talk with you about the cognitive dissidents that people are feeling, whether you're a parent who has kids and you don't know what to do about it or whether you're seeing the uptick in cases and you've been so good this whole time. And yet all around you, people are still getting sick and dying
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Dayle Brenner
@DBWLCSWR · 5:00
It's so inclusive, and I think that this whole experience, this experience, what a word that is has, for the most part, a common denominator, aside from the enormous amount of grief has been for most people in large measure, or perhaps in smaller measure, a sense of isolation, either a day, a week, the entire six months. I read an article about how adoption of animals is so high
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Michael Burgess
@beitmenotyou · 4:52
And I said to that gentleman, I was like, Well, I'd rather not die at all. So I'd rather you not infect me. Thanks. So put your face mask on. And we've had some people say, oh, it's not really a virus. It's just their way of controlling us
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Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 2:13

@beitmenotyou / Swell Petition

People don't need the app. So what if you started a swell conversation, heading it up with a demand for Ten down, you to hear our ideas, and then you created the conversation here on Swell. You got a lot of people to agree. You get a massive amount of conferring thoughts, and then you send the web address to someone at Downing to hear as like. It's almost like an audio petition. Really easy to do
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Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 1:08

Managing Xmas 2020

And I just wanted you to speak specifically to the holiday period, whether or not you feel like there's some tools that people can use to really make something that feels very big into something that can be managed. How do you take this big cloud and put it in a jar? And I'd love your thoughts about that. So thanks for anything you could tell us
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Dayle Brenner
@DBWLCSWR · 5:00

Keepin It Real

I have friends in the UK if anybody's not aware of, they're in full blown lockdown as of yesterday who are devastated because they are not going to see their granddaughter open up her scooter on Christmas Day in real time. And I want the people who feel like they're failing at being joyful or grateful during these next two weeks when for them these next two weeks feel like just fullblown loss. I hear you. I see you. I feel you
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