We are all guilty of this. We've done this to ourselves, to our friends, and to our families. Hi, this is Erica As, Souljourney One K, and I want to talk to you today about toxic positivity. I did an article over on Medium about toxic positivity and how it's such an irony or oxymoron, because how can something positive be toxic? First of all, what is toxic positivity?
Al Cosby
@Cosbyal4165 · 1:33
Hey. Good morning, Erica. How are you doing? Al Cosby here. Just got finished listening to your swell cast on toxic positivity. All I can say is very, very, very good. I mean, this is definitely something that we should discuss a lot more in today's society. And like you said, one of the old cliches, you know, too much of anything is not a good thing
Mabel Peralta
@MabelAuto · 3:17
I just need you to be there and listen. And that's something that I feel that we need to establish more as individuals. We really need to set our boundaries correctly. So if we are going to complain, if we are going to vent or talk about situation that we have on hand, we need to let the other person know like, hey, listen, I know that everything's going to be okay and I know that things happen for a reason. I just need to let this go
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
I'm just being facetious, but do you know what I mean? It's just ridiculous how silly and toxic it can be. So I've definitely ran across this before and obviously when you see parents raising their children this way, parents can raise children the way they want, you can't really say anything to them. You got to sort of mind your business and not get involved in that way. So absolutely agree with this
Lololi Speaks
@LololiSpeaks · 4:34
Because at the end of the day, I just think positivity is something that should be balanced between being realistic and being positive, right? For me, I'm a positive person. I've always been the cheerleader, the spearhead of a team, the person that motivates the group and gets them in a good place. I'm a project coordinator by profession, so that means I am to drive a project, but I'm also to keep the momentum when the team goes down, even facing hardships
Erica Jean
@HeyItsErica · 0:36
Thank you for replying, Al. Sorry it's taking me long to get back with all of you. Work has been something else, as usual, but I'm so, so glad to get your reply on it. And displaced aggression is definitely the right term when we don't have the proper outlets and when, you know, no one wants to listen
Erica Jean
@HeyItsErica · 1:01
That way you could just know right off the bat what the person will or won't accept. And like you said, those people who are swallowing sunshine may not be the best people to go to. I'm sure they're great to go to when you're ready for that piece and that's joy and you're ready to soak in that sunshine. But certain matters require people who are more grounded. So thank you for your response. I really appreciate it
Erica Jean
@HeyItsErica · 2:08
You have people who are actually saying that they don't want to shame their child or they don't even want to try to bring negativity to their child. It's a really extreme example. And these are the type of children who, if they've never been disciplined in their life or told to treat people, or told to treat people right, these are the ones who coast through life thinking they can do anything and say anything to anyone and there not be any consequence
Erica Jean
@HeyItsErica · 2:45
Once again, I'm glad we were able to discuss this together. And I went ahead and followed you, and I believe I followed everyone else, too, on this webcast. So all of you enjoy the rest of your day and your evening
Andrea Potvin
@GoodEnough · 2:17
I hate to use the word complaining, because some people just need to pour out their hearts without having somebody say, hey, look at the bright side. Yeah, it's so difficult. I'm going through some things, and especially with complex trauma, PTSD, and so many people do not want to talk about anything related to, well, anything that brings up feelings or emotions, but they're like, oh, so many people have it so much worse
Lololi Speaks
@LololiSpeaks · 3:01
Life can be triggering traumatic, and all those lists of things that leaves scars on us. And I'm grateful for having a cup that really always seems to be half full, never half empty. And that has got me so far in life. It's gotten me through so many things in life
Erica Jean
@HeyItsErica · 1:03
But again, as you continue to go on your souljourney, I do hope you find that healing. And again, thank you for responding to my swell cast and you take care
Everything Jay
@everythingjay · 4:51
That's really what I take it as like, because know, even being a child raised in an environment of when you're crying, someone says, stop crying, or I'll give you something to cry for, or shut the h*** up. It's not that bad, or whatever it is to dismiss my feelings. I've heard it all, and so I understand what you mean by toxic
Becky Butler
@bc75 · 2:16
Don't acknowledge, if you have this situation that you need to face that you need to get through that. You need to rise above and you do need to be positive and you do need to speak life. And you do need to edify and you do need to do those things and undo the lies that we thought were truth about ourselves, about others. And we have to also be able to live in reality, putting our head in the clouds and being constantly just positive, positive
