And the tip, the siblings talking crap about us, saying that we are things, getting us to fight against each other with that person's kids, blah, blah, blah. I know it's a mess. But because of that, we have developed as siblings some very rough protect like waste mechanisms to help us protect ourselves from people
So being skillful with negative self thoughts or negative thoughts that may have been planted by other people's traumas, because we oftentimes carry trauma, if our parents or family members have done something harmful or hurtful to us to cause trauma, it was most likely done to them. And so really it's about standing up from the table and walking away and ending the generational curse that perpetuates this trauma. So we can identify and then we can begin to maybe walk away, step away, do whatever you need
And I had to accept that this was a feeling of inadequacy in myself and anything that you can think of that would make you shame, I had to accept that. And then I had to take control of myself. I had to align. The greatest gift is control on oneself. And family need to accept that everybody changes, everyone evolves and they either become worse or they become better. But for me right now my family is at this point to where I'm done with trying to fix them
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Sagar Bhosale
@sagarbhosale · 5:00
Upbringing is more or rather say the blame is more on the kind of upbringing that we have undergone but after a certain period post 18 or different human beings have different maturing agents mentally. Physically is something which I'm not talking about majority is different from sage to age for a different individual so once we start maturing and even after that if we do not calculate or analyze or self you can say appraisal of our own self
Kelly Smalley
@transqween · 4:59
If we fall into making the same decisions as others in our family may have or did, then of course at that moment we are allowing it to define us because we're making these same decisions, these same mistakes. But when we get into our heads of, okay, what my parents choices were and what my siblings choices were, those are not my decisions. So therefore their decisions don't define me, it defines them
