@Shaz
Shaz
@Shaz · 1:18

Family functions and awkward conversations!

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Sometimes I do understand their concern, but they'd be pointing out the obvious, though. Like, for example, if you had an acne breakout, they will literally be like, oh, look at your face. Your acne is so bad. How did you let it get so bad? And you need to do something about it. I'm like, okay, thank you. I also have eyes and mirrors in my home, so I know what my face looks like
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@zayima_rahman
Zayima Rahman
@zayima_rahman · 0:59
And when you mention that you're doing good in life or you're doing well in life or you have achieved something they'll just hear and they'll be like, oh, that's nice. But what about blah, blah, blah, and then point out another negative talk pick about you. So there's very little appreciation here to be very honest. And I find your post so relatable. So yes, definitely. I have experienced this
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@Pooji
Poojitha Rajendran
@Pooji · 2:47

I would love to keep going but I can only record for 5 mins so

And there should be a lesson given to all these old people or parents in particular about how to talk about a person's appearance. Don't simply don't. They're happy. Be happy for them. You can't be happy for them. Get out. Don't talk with them. Simple
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@Shaz
Shaz
@Shaz · 0:25

@zayima_rahman Ahh..yes!. D smooth swerve to get back to uncomfortableness!

Ooh. Rayma. Yep. That totally makes sense. You could tell them, you know, about your promotion or really good grades that you got and it'd be like, just for a minute, they would be like, oh, that's great. But what about is what about when you're getting married and totally changed the topic and then proceed to drag it out. Yes. Happened. Totally. Totally. Bin
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@Shaz
Shaz
@Shaz · 0:47

@Pooji I mean yeah! How should we respond?

But if you get upset and you reply, they think you're disrespectful. If you don't reply at all, you're rude. I mean, how do I respond to it while expressing myself that there is so much discomfort here? Let's not talk about it again. Like how
@Pooji
Poojitha Rajendran
@Pooji · 1:34

27 scenarios in which I win the conversation in my head @Shaz

Is my mental health stable? I want to focus on that. So when you think about what to say or respond to these kind of people, you can prepare it all day long. But eventually, on that point, you wouldn't be able to speak anything. That's what I would feel. But I always want to snap back at people say something rude because what they said is rude. I'm the kind of person. But probably I wouldn't have the norm to say it on spot
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@madymz
Mohamed Zaghloul
@madymz · 1:35
I'm now 38, so I just get away with all of those reunions. I just go with my friends, go out and about here or there. But I think girls cannot escape things like this, so they have to attend. But I think that the parents that time have a big role to protect their kids to be away from this criticism because all the criticism is not subjected, hence already destructive criticisms
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@Swell
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15

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@Shaz
Shaz
@Shaz · 0:35

@madymz

Hey, I do agree that parents play a huge role in protecting their children. I feel like parents don't want to start a fight in the family, and it is easier to ask the children to be quiet than to actually confront and have a conversation with the rest of the family to avoid stuff like this. I think it's a fair point because parents are the adults in the situation, especially when it's younger children are involved. So that makes total sense
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