Insults: "What do you want me to do with that?"
Apart from they're going through something or, you know, they're in heightened emotional state and they're not thinking clearly or I don't even know. Especially, again, like I said, it's from somebody that has just observed something. It's not that you've done anybody wrong. They've just observed your fat or heard you say something and you're dumb or something
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:59
I'm pro me in a very healthy and realized way because I don't have to do all of those things anymore. And I could hear the frustration. I'm one of the people is my mother, God bless her. And so I could hear the disdain in her voice yesterday because something wasn't going the way that she wanted it to go
And like, who in their right mind cares whether someone's using earbuds with wires or earbuds without wires or ear pods as a brand name or not? Does it suit the need that you have? Then use it. You know what I mean? I would be a terrible salesperson because I wouldn't sell the highest valued item to the person. I'd be like, what is it you need? What is it you want to do?
Emily Broome
@helloemilybroom · 4:05
But that doesn't help because what that does is it simply drives somebody to have different issues and fears. Like, I remember I hated exercise and I hated doing active things because my gym teacher in middle school, in middle school was cruel to me. I wasn't overweight. I literally have a different frame. I grew up among a Dutch community. I am more Slavic in my heritage. I have broader shoulders, wider hips, stockier, muscular legs
Just for the record, fat people are my favorite people. Anyone who has had something that they have had to overcome society stigmas in my opinion almost all of those people are way better people because you're humbled by it and you don't just come out thinking you're God's gift. So I think one of the reasons that I am drawn to women over men is not just some of the outside differences, but because I like a confident person. And I have found that
That's the bottom line. If they've revealed themselves, then believe them. And there's an understanding to an extent of maybe they had a bad day or this or that or maybe they're trying to make sense of their own thinking. And my flexibility or whatever is challenging that or whatever it might be. Right? But it doesn't excuse the behavior. And I guess sometimes I forget to meld those ideas of believe them and recognize that there is no excuse for certain behaviors
Wren .
@aBirdieOnaWire · 4:58
Hi, everyone. So I listened to everyone's comments, and it's really a wonderful conversation, a lot of insights. Emily especially liked yours seemed like it covered a pretty wide swath as to why people do this. But Christina, in your last response when you were responding to San MoMA yeah, I think that covers it. When someone shows you who they are, they were to deed believe them. And I've got a pretty good example from my business partner