And then you don't necessarily know, because then it becomes more a jockeying of position of how I want you to perceive me and how we're going to move forward. And it's like this power struggle. So instead we have to hide behind the socially acceptable label, socially acceptable behavior. But really on the DL playing the game, it's so weird. And yet it's how we operate
Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 3:06
I hear you and I raise you. I raise you to say, okay, that's a generic sort of truth about the social kind of behaviors of people living, maybe getting to know you, parties and networky things and all the things that we did precove in
Tim Ereneta
@Tim · 3:06
It's not because I'm an anthropologist, but doing theater. When we were learning improvisation, we found that we could get better audience response by collaboratively creating stories where we acted like real human beings. And that was not by telling jokes or being funny. It was by even without telling the audience we were doing this. It was by establishing patterns of dominance and submission. We use the term status that's a professor of theater at the University of Alberta
In my experience, this leaves the person in a state of unease. It's like they're walking on shaky ground and then to have any sort of conversation where we engage in something deeply. It can't happen because they're still stuck in this state of unease, and it takes longer to get past it. Some don't get past it. But of course it all depends on the person. Have you found anything similar Deb in your experience and offering different answers?
I'm going to take that forward. I do think that because I struggle with the necessity of these things, and I see a lot of interactions as being more collaborative than hierarchical or deference and power dynamics, et cetera. But again, I understand that some people need them more than others, and it's almost for lack of a better word, a game that has to be played in order to interact. But you've given me some more things to think about
Tim Ereneta
@Tim · 0:20
Yeah, either improv training or if you just get good at removing the ticks and parasites from their matted hair. I think that's another way Curry favor within a social hierarchy of primates