Why highlight in a social media profile, roles many or all of us fill?
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Is it to point out that they are different in a way, because they are loving, different in a way, because they are a mother or a father, a wife or a husband. And if that sets them apart in some way, what is their perspective on those who don't fill those roles? So overall, why is it important that we highlight or make note of any of these roles
Hey, Christina, really interesting question here. And I have to admit that if I were listening to you and I had not heard you mention social media, I would have guessed that you were talking about tombstones because that's what it sounds like. It sounds like the descriptions that people put on their profiles. Loving, loving, loving sondaughter, loyal friend. What is striking resemblance to what we put at our memorials? And I don't know if that is necessarily a good thing
I don't know if you noticed this one or not, but around the time when the me, too movement was very much in the forefront, those who would do this kind of thing in their profile would change it to be proud or loving father of X number of daughters or X number of sisters. Like, there was an emphasis on how many women were in this man's life, which is funny in itself, because we all have women in our lives
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Rae Lahnie
@RaelahΒ Β·Β 2:58
And maybe that title is the most positive and mostly attractive title of their life. And that's what they want to be remembered as same thing with tombstones
And I wonder if there's anything to why we choose these different things, because obviously I think most of us would say we value our friendships or family or these kinds of things. But we may not all find an interest in, say, photography or philosophy. So I guess I don't know if there's still some strangeness there that I can't quite articulate or pinpoint, at least strange to me anyway
ZenWarrior Fuosing
@ZenWarriorΒ Β·Β 0:35
I think you answered your own question with the question initially as roles, all of us have different roles. However, when we specifically call out a role, we're saying that role really defines us. It's areas. Everybody's got a mother. Everybody is someone's mother. But I really enjoy being a mother or my mother is really special to me more so than another person they may not mention so fuosing the descriptor a role to tell you what is important about that
And they're not going to have an additional number of profiles to list along with the same thing goes for athletes or celebrities. There's going to be some difference. There will be patterns there. But they're not this pattern. And I think that's what fascinates me
ZenWarrior Fuosing
@ZenWarriorΒ Β·Β 0:41
It's not so simple or your type of love that you can consider, but it's a very much deeper love for some reason. But I don't think we're adding anything. Not at all. They are just simply emphasizing
So perhaps all of these rules could be listed under the umbrella of relationships. And each additional statement is maybe a degree. If you were to turn a dial to show intensity or emphasis, is that what I'm understanding
ZenWarrior Fuosing
@ZenWarriorΒ Β·Β 0:50
As much as this is what a person does and how involved with that are they that casual involvement. They don't write down if they're heavily involved. Yes, they make a note of it. But again, I could be wrong
ZenWarrior Fuosing
@ZenWarriorΒ Β·Β 0:35
Again, I may well be wrong, but when I said 30 years of literature, it's because I have a PhD in the area, essentially psychological part of it. It's with respect to consumer and human behavior. And that's why I'm able to think about 30 years of literature. I've read it all. I don't recall it. So we pretty much assume that's another heading title of involvement with the role. How much the role means to a person, that's all
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