I was just wondering, whenever I do interviews for my channel, I tend to approach a lot of boys, a lot of men, to help me understand what issues they are facing through society or from anybody, from any gender. And all those false rape allegations, false allegations of any sort, or maybe many more problems, including that how men are not treated equally when it comes to emotional part of it. So I was just wondering, why is that happening?
Riya Garg
@riyagarg1002 · 2:58
Hey, thank you so much for listening to this and replying back. I really appreciate because not everyone is doing that. So firstly, the point that you've mentioned over here, this is exactly what I'm trying to point out and for the fact that a lot of men, in fact, most of them, tend to hesitate when it comes to showcasing their emotions, the weaker emotions, it's not really weak. But then that's what society terms it as weak
And men should also have a right to express their feelings and express their emotions. And men should definitely speak up. Society in general tends to be biased towards women and protect women. And men are supposed to be like I've said, they're supposed to be restrained and balanced and emotionally strong. And this and that this is all complete rubbish. Women take advantage of this situation and women are dominating and controlling and they speak their mind out whenever they want
Here. Ya, thanks for this topic. And in my perspective so yes, there is injustice everywhere in the society, but what we support is which is bigger and which is smaller. This it's not means that we can neglect the smaller part. But yes, when we talk about female and femininity, we forget that we are also putting a subconscious pressure on men and masculinity. So both the segments are equally affected if one faces injustice
Riya Garg
@riyagarg1002 · 4:20
And when the point that you mentioned that women are more controlling, dominating, et cetera, is not something I really agree with because there are women who are sensitive and understand men and who are ready to listen to each and every person out there, I'm sure. Obviously, even if it's about men, there are both good and bad types of it. If it's about women or LGBTQIA section, there is both good and bad aspect of it
Riya Garg
@riyagarg1002 · 2:13
Chand one small thing that I would like to share over here is whenever I try to create some content for my YouTube videos or my posts, whenever I try to search for rape cases on men, I go and Google it up. Shockingly, there is no content, no information available on it, because I don't know why, but we as a society are not sensitive enough to accept the fact in first place that men can be raped, that men are getting raped
Hi Riya. This is a very interesting question, something we as a society need to talk about a lot. So I believe it all starts with us not encouraging the men of our house to be openly vulnerable. They are given this Rock of the House title, chand practically glorified for not showing signs of vulnerability and pain. I wouldn't say society does not allow men to express their emotions. They sure do
shafali anand
@shafali · 5:00
So there have been experiments where both young boys and girls were to a certain age, when they were asked to do certain things, the girls behaved exactly as the boys would behave and the boys behaved exactly as the girls would behave. But as they grew up, as they learned the most and the customs of the society that they were living in, they began to change. So men not speaking up about whatever they go through is part of that. It is part of that learned behavior
Aayan B
@aayanisms · 4:55
Yep. This topic cannot be finished in five minutes. But at a high level, I think we live in a society which is largely patriotic, hypocritical, myopic conditional, skewed, complicated, complex and largely confused. Yeah, I think that kind of ticks all the boxes. But the challenges there is no way out of this. There is no force feeding. There is no unlearning that is happening. It's to do with years and years of conditioning, patriarchy
Riya Garg
@riyagarg1002 · 1:01
Hey. Sridhanya shafali. Hi Aayan. Thank you so much for your views and for sharing a reply. This means a lot to me. And yeah, obviously because we need to talk about this topic and then only probably, you know, people will understand its importance and unless we talk about it, we cannot say find a solution
Sreeja V
@Wordsmith · 1:25
And I think a lot of it has to do with upbringing. So if they are typically in an environment where it is highly conservative and they are not encouraged to share as much, they wouldn't share and vice versa. So I think as parents, there is a huge responsibility to encourage children to speak up and then they carry this forward right, throughout their life and grow into people, transform rather into people who have the confidence to speak up, speak their mind, regardless of the situation