You cannot just mold it in a way that you want, and even if you try to force a relationship to work initially, it just won't work out and the wrong person can drain your precious energy and you will again perceive that love is hard or relationships are hard, but sometimes it just means your partner is not emotionally mature or maybe somewhat toxic. Or maybe you are not ready to have it all at once. Now sit back today and think what you are really looking for in your partner