And where I can see both sides of the story is parents get fed up. Too many times I've heard that they are reporting the parents are reporting the issues to the schools and the schools aren't doing enough. I know a lot of people say now that they have or a lot of schools say that they have zero tolerance, but I'm still hearing these stories from parents. My children are now out of school, so I don't face these issues
Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 2:44
This is really bad recurring experience, a nightmare for somebody and teaching kids how to be accountable to each other. All these things are so beautiful. But we also have to look at the adults out there in the world that are bullies and how much they must affect the kids perception of what's okay and what's not
Renee Slay
@Renee_Slay · 1:44
Thank you so much for taking the time to get involved in the conversation. I agree with you 100% in everything that you said and as well as the seeing Trump in the White House and and what he's modeling, the behavior that he's modeling for everyone else. I have friends, like I said, that come to me, that that try different solutions. I'm hoping that there are problems in soon
Renee Slay
@Renee_Slay · 2:27
My question comes more from a place where if another child at the school is physically bullying your child, what is the correct thing for that child to do? Now, this is once the school has been notified and the school has notified the parents, and the parents haven't done anything because they're doing some toxic parenting themselves, and your child keeps getting hit or pushed or bullied, that's where I find myself confused as to what the right answer is, because I don't promote violence in anyone
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:40
So you got to go and with kids killing other kids these days, saying things to psychologically terrorize them, physically terrorize them, no, we don't advocate for our son being the initiator, but we d*** sure advocate for our son to make sure he stays alive. I think there was a girl who was jumped by some other girls and ended up severely injured
Manasvin shah
@vinn · 1:05
Hey, I'm not a parent, but I am a child. And I have faced bullying and I have got back and not breakfast, but by recording videos and taking in the proof and uploading image of the coolie pulling me in the school newspaper. And that was really effective, and that was really satisfying. That's what I think. I think you should choose, always choose Path of Mumbai Lens
Renee Slay
@Renee_Slay · 2:17
If it got back to them that I didn't stand up for myself, then I was going to get spanked at home, and spanked pretty bad, but that's a whole nother podcast. But I can agree with both sides absolutely, 100%. I think you have to do what you have to do, and there's not always an adult to protect you
Renee Slay
@Renee_Slay · 2:52
You deserve a beautiful life just like everybody else, and you deserve love and respect just like everyone else. And I applaud the fact that you look at it as doing the next right thing. What's the right thing in the moment, because sometimes our defense of our children as parents kind of overtakes that, and we're like, okay, do the right thing. Do the right thing when the right thing isn't working. Well, what are we going to do now?
But I wish they taught me is kind of the dignity of boundaries and the self dignity and the self respect and the self sovereignty to stand in my own truth. And I never saw that embodied in my parents. And I think if I saw that modeled for me in different contexts of my life, I would have gotten a very different picture of what it means to be a person living in their dignity, living in their sovereignty, living in the truth. I didn't know what that was
Renee Slay
@Renee_Slay · 2:31
So my heart goes out to you on that because I know how deeply that can affect you, but it also makes you in adulthood. I have found that I'm an advocate now against bullying, and I stand up for those around me when I see it happening. Because there's still bullies in adulthood, but just not to me, because they see me. They didn't see me before. But I appreciate your contribution
Renee Slay
@Renee_Slay · 1:27
But if if someone is putting hands on you and nothing's being done about it and it's already been documented and complained against, then you have that option and I'm not going to be mad. And you're right also in that blows my mind. The way that some of the teachers get disrespected now, it's insane to me and really calls into question, like, what's happening at home because, you know, they're being notified, why is that not handled at that level?
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Monroe 💋
@MonroeAugust · 3:14
And whether we teach it or whether we say it or not, at some point they're going to either feel that way or they're going to feel like they want to in their life. Their lives. And that's the most unfortunate part is it goes either way. Sometimes it can go great, I turned out great. I'm not a violent person and I don't teach my kids violence. But I do want them to know you don't just let anybody pick on you
Renee Slay
@Renee_Slay · 2:03
Hi. Thank you for taking the time to listen and to respond. I wanted to say that I don't blame your parents or you for standing up for yourself in any situation. Like, I am 100%. That Jake. And what I did find is that in those circumstances where I did do that, where I did have to get physical because someone got physical with me and just wouldn't leave me alone, they did stop picking on me. So, I mean, it was an answer